Niece was eyeing my husband

Dear Pastor

I am 57 and my husband is 51. I have not been well, so my niece is at the house with me. She is in her early 20s and from the time that girl put her feet in my house, she has had her eyes on my husband.

I asked her why she was always looking at my husband in such ‘a way’. She asked me what way, and I told her that she is always looking at his pants front. She said ‘Aunty, you are crazy’.

I told her I was not crazy, but if she knew that she loved my husband, she should go back to her mother. Otherwise, I would choke her and kill her.

She called her mother and told her that she was having an affair with my husband.

Her mother called me

and I explained to her what I saw and what I told her.

Her mother told her to come back home. She went home, but I did not tell my husband that I was sending her home. After she went home, my husband asked me when she was coming back, and I told him she was not.

He called my sister and she told him things that I never said. I am a churchwoman, and my husband is in church, too. I would not want any scandal to take place. That is why I sent her home. Pastor, was I wrong?

D.C.

Dear D.C.,

Some people would say that you are paranoid, but you know what you know. And you felt that the relationship you have with your husband is under threat. I don’t know whether this girl would want to have an intimate relationship with your husband. Perhaps she did not, but you believed that she had wandering eyes and you did not like that at all. When you asked her why she was always looking at him in such a sensuous way, she told you that you were wrong and that she had a boyfriend. But you felt you should send her home.

You did not want to take chances and perhaps you don’t have much confidence in your husband. You believe that it was likely that your husband would get involved with your niece if he had the opportunity to do so. So you asked your niece to leave.

I hope your sister and yourself would reason out this problem, and that there will be no animosity between the members of the family.

Pastor.