Three times my age and giving me ‘bun’
Dear Pastor,
The other day I went into my boyfriend’s phone and I saw some text messages between him and another girl. I confronted him and he denied the whole thing.
I am so disappointed in this man. We have been together for three years. I am 20 years old and he is 60; I never expected this.
I was the best thing that ever happened to him. I am so hurt because I put my whole heart and trust in this man. He sent her messages asking her if she enjoyed when they made love.
I asked him about it. He said that the girl told him that she dreamt that they had sex. I don’t believe it at all.
There are so many things that were said in the text messages between them that I won’t mention. But can someone be so dishonest, even after all the sacrifices I made and the things that we went through?
He was not coming clean to me so I called her.
I told her to stay away from him. He quarrelled with me and said that the girl’s mother called him and asked him if he and her daughter were involved in anything.
He has a son my age and he told the son that I went through his phone and took off his messages, and that I deleted them. Now he has a password on his phone when there wasn’t any on it.
W.D.
Dear W.D.,
I am assuming that you don’t trust this man and that is why you searched his phone. He is clearly a liar. Now that you know so much about him, what do you intend to do?
You are only 20 and you are with this 60-year-old man. You are upset that he has a code on his phone. Why should you be upset?
He does not want you to call his girlfriend any more.
He knows that you are creating trouble for him. So he is trying to prevent you from reading his messages and from keeping track of him.
Make up your mind about what you want to do with this relationship.
This man could be telling you what you want to hear and doing the same thing with the other woman. You have to make your own decision. It does not appear to me, however, that this man is planning to have a lasting relationship with you.
Pastor