Girlfriend’s parents don’t know me

Dear Pastor,

I am a male and I will be out of high school this year. I do not have many friends, but I have a girlfriend. She and I attend the same high school and out of all the guys, she chose me to be her boyfriend.

She has made me feel so special. Sometimes when I don’t have lunch money, she would give me money. She is planning to do law and I am hoping to do medicine. Pastor, we love each other very much.

My parents know her, but her parents don’t know me. She is not ready to introduce me to them. She says the time will come when she will have to do so, but she is waiting until she gets accepted into university.

Sometimes I wonder if she is afraid to let her parents know that she is in love with a guy like me, who is not from a big-shot family. She is a real friend and I love her, and one day I know we will get married.

E.J.

Dear E.J.,

I hope that this girl means you well; you say she has chosen you over all other guys. Congratulations to you. You don’t have to be worried about your background.

You are not responsible for where you were born or who your parents are. You are responsible for what you become.

You have been very fortunate to have had a relationship with this young woman. Undoubtedly, she loves you. She has high goals and you, too, have high goals.

She is reluctant in introducing you to her parents. She does not feel that the time is right. I hope you won’t try to push her.

Being in school together is quite different from the working world. Time will tell if this relationship will last.

Pastor