Boyfriend’s mother thinks he’s too old for me

Dear Pastor

I am 17 and my man is 27. He is very good to me. He gives me everything I ask for. When I met him, I told my mother about him, and my mother told me she wanted to know him.

My mother got pregnant with me when she was 15, and she always told me that I should try not to make men use me and get me pregnant like my father did to her.

My father cannot read, but my mother can. My mother said that she was fat, and when she got pregnant, people told my granny to report him to the police. But my mother threatened to run away because she loved my father so much.

But my father heard that my grandmother was going to report him, so he disappeared. His relatives used to give my mother money, but it was never enough.

I told my boyfriend everything my mother told me, so I took him to meet my mother, and my mother loves him. During holidays, I stay with my boyfriend. I have to do my school work. He is very strict about that.

I wanted to be a flight attendant. People tell me that I have a good personality, but I am thinking of trying something else. I like to entertain, but my boyfriend does not want me to go into that business.

My boyfriend has a child with another woman. His mother does not want my boyfriend to spend any time with him at the house because she knows when I am there.

She told my boyfriend that I am a schoolgirl and that he should not be having a relationship with a schoolgirl. He cursed a few bad words at her and told her to get out of his business.

Do you think this man is too old for me? My mother told me it is better to be an old man’s darling than a young man’s slave.

C.

Dear C.

One might say that it is unfortunate that your mother encouraged you to develop an intimate relationship with this 27-yearold man.

Perhaps she should have suggested that you try to get a part-time job to help yourself financially instead of becoming this man’s lover and getting money from him to support yourself.

On the other hand, your mother knows the struggles she has had and how difficult it would have been to support you.

Therefore, what she wanted to do was to meet your boyfriend and to beg him to take care of you, and that is what is happening now. This man is taking care of you and insisting that you go to school.

I hope that you will not waste your time in school and that you will aim high and that you will choose a career that you love. I hope that this man will not use you and get you pregnant or dump you by the way side if he gets tired of you.

Pastor.