My spouse and I have too many children

Dear Pastor,

I met a woman a few years ago but we lost contact. When I first met her she was single. I have since found out that she is now married, so I put that woman behind me.

Now, I have met another woman and she has won my heart, but the problem is that she has six children and I have five. People are telling me that I will have to have a truck to transport all our children together.

I don’t intend to have a truck, but I intend to have a minibus not only to take the children around, but to use as a taxi.

I have no luck with women. When I meet a woman, I give her my all. But these women always cheat on me, even those who say they are Christians. Two of the children for this woman don’t have any respect for me. I can’t talk to them.

The girls dress as if they are going to the dancehall and when I speak to their mother, she says that is how they dress because they have nothing else to wear.

They talk to their mother any way they feel like, and she can’t say anything to them. Sometimes I wonder what I am putting myself into, but I love this woman.

My children have respect for this woman. The only problem they have with her is that she has too many children and they want to know how the living accommodations will go.

L.R.

Dear L.R.,

You say that women have let you down in the past, but you have come to know this woman and you love her. The only drawback you are having is that she has six children and two of her children don’t love you or have respect for you.

Perhaps they see you as too strict or as someone who would want to tell them what to do, where to go, and what to wear. They are not accustomed to that, and their mother would defend them.

You did not give the ages of these children, but sir, I hope that if you were to marry this woman, some of them would leave, because it would be difficult to blend the family.

I hate to think that you would be able to manage all of these children. But, on the other hand, it would be wrong for me to discourage you from marrying a woman you love because of the number of children she has.

It is a ‘trailer load’ of children, but a man should know what he can manage, so I wish you the very best.

Pastor