Convinced my wife is cheating

Dear Pastor,

I am in my mid-40s, and I am having a nagging problem. My wife and I do farming, but because of my physical problems, I don’t go to the market.

My wife takes the goods, and sometimes when she should come home, she doesn’t. I have become suspicious of her. I expect her to come home on Saturday nights, but sometimes she returns on a Monday morning. When I get angry with her, she is always making excuses.

One day she told me that the truck that was bringing them home broke down. I asked her where she slept, and she said that she and another woman went with a friend and slept at his relative’s place.

This has happened about seven times. My wife seems to be having an affair, and

I don’t know what to do. I don’t know if it is the truck driver she is going with or the bus driver, but something going on. Sometimes

I am here fretting, and Pastor, I know she is sleeping at a man’s house or somewhere because when she comes home, she smells fresh and clean.

What do you think? A.T.

Dear A.T.,

Well, wherever your wife is sleeping, there are good bathroom facilities. At least she is able to shower. I can’t say whether your wife is having an affair, but you have a right to be suspicious because often when she should come home, she does not. You are old enough to know that something is wrong.

She can’t be so unfortunate that every time she should come home something has gone wrong with the vehicle. You will find out what is going on. It is just a matter of time. Somebody is either going to tell you, or she will get tired of you and walk out on you. I suggest, however, that you try your best and save as much as you can because you are going to need money to support yourself. This is just in case your wife walks out on you.

Pastor