Cheated because my girl didn’t like oral sex

Pastor,

I am 36. When I was 28, I was living with my mom and my three brothers in a three-bedroom house.

I shared a room with my youngest brother, who is five years younger than me. I met a young woman who was also five years younger than me. This girl was like no other.

She was from the country and grew up with her grandmother, so you know she has morals. Apart from that she was a very pretty, dark skinned girl with long hair, and she was smart. She is a nurse, and she was very shapely. It was hard to believe that with her looks and shape she would be loyal, but she was.

We dated for little more than a year. She encouraged me to buy a bed and a dresser so I could have a room for myself.

That year was the best year of my life. However, I messed it up by cheating with many women. She wasn’t willing to perform oral sex.

She was very good in bed, but I could never convince her to perform oral sex. I even did it to her to try my luck, but nothing worked.

So I went outside and got it. I later found out that she did not trust me. She told me before she left that she was not going all out for a guy who has multiply sex partners.

She was independent. My mom and siblings loved her. When we had no food or gas in the house, she would buy it for us and even cook, without complaining.

At one point, we were going to get evicted for owing two months’ rent and she went in her account and paid the rent.

She never got that money back, but she had her own rent to pay. My mom took advantage of her and started borrowing money from her.

But she was very smart and only loaned my mother some money once. My mother ended up hating her when she realised that she could not use her.

I met this girl who started asking me for money before we had sex. She was pretty and had a nice shape nice as well. The only difference was that she did not have morals.

I gave her money and made my demands, which she eagerly fulfilled. She was high-maintenance girl; and at one point I took a $90,000 loan and gave her the money. My girl found out and this outside girl was terrorising her, so she left me. I eventually chased away the other girl as she was draining me. Now my ex is married and has a beautiful little girl and she seems very happy.

This other girl contacted me out of the blue recently, asking me a favour. She wanted me to get in contact with my ex.

I contacted her through social media and wished her a happy birthday, but she never responded. She wants nothing to do with me. This other girl later revealed her grand plan.

She wanted me to talk to my ex and screenshot the conversation and pass it to her so she could tell the girl’s husband that she was still in contact with me.

This girl wanted to mess up the relationship because it did not work out for her.

Anonymous

Dear Writer,

Your story isn’t straight. You would observe that I have deleted some of the trash that you have written.

I could accept that you were fortunate to have a relationship with a beautiful woman who was much smarter than you were and who helped you financially for a while.

I could also accept that you were running around with other women and she dropped you.

But I don’t accept that suddenly you had enough money to support another girl whom you described as a “high maintenance”.

You could hardly help yourself financially, so how could you have a woman who was high maintenance? You lie so much, you don’t realise that you are talking nonsense.

Whatever the case might have been, I am glad that this nurse ran you out of her life and is now living happily with her husband and daughter.

Young man, always speak the truth. If you don’t, people will not trust you. You don’t have to lie about how good you are to women.

As I read your letter, I was convinced that you have an axe to grind. I am convinced that you are not a truthful person.

Pastor