My husband has little stamina in bed

Dear Pastor,

I am having a problem. I am married. I am 20 years younger than my husband. He is 50 years old and I am 30. He was married before and he has two children, one boy and one girl.

Both of them are still living at home but we get along very well. His daughter is about my age. The house is big, so they have their own space. People don’t even know that this man and I are married.

I get up and make breakfast for him and he goes to work. I don’t have to work if I don’t want to, but I have a job. His company pays some of the bills for the house. I have never heard him fuss with his children. He told me that the mother of the children is living in America. We were going for six months, then after that we got married in a very private ceremony.

I have one child, but his father has him. But his father does not realise that I am married to this man; he thinks I am the man’s helper. My son’s father and I don’t have a sexual relationship anymore.

When the friends of my husband’s children come to the house, I don’t behave as if I am the woman of the house. They are here as long as they want. I love this man. He adores me. I massage him every week because I am a masseuse. Whenever we have sex, he falls asleep immediately afterwards. He cannot go two rounds. Sometimes I would like to talk to him after sex, but he falls asleep. I would like to know how to keep him awake.

H.M.

Dear H.M.,

Some men have married younger women and the marriages have been successful. Others have regretted doing so. This man has married you and both of you are going on just fine.

His children respect you and you respect them. You say that not many people know that both of you are husband and wife. I believe as the years go by that would be revealed. Both of you must have good reasons for not making that known.

I would suggest to you to save heavily. You don’t have to pay any bills so you should have a pretty bank account in the near future.

Concerning this man and your love making, I would ask you this question, why do you want this man to stay awake and he has ejaculated after both of you have made love? He is not a young man, he is 50 years old and if he has done a good job and you are sexually satisfied, you should allow the man to have some sleep and don’t try to keep him awake.

Men should not try to ejaculate more than once. So, don’t push this man, let him sleep.

Pastor