Children think my new woman is too old

Dear Pastor,

Pastor, I am 71 years old and I am asking you for your help. I did not want to talk to you on the radio because too many people know my voice, so please do not put my initials.

I have worked in America for many years. I was married twice. Both of my wives died. My last wife did not have children and when she became ill, she willed everything to me. I did not want to stay in America, so I told my children I was coming home. They did not want me to come, but Jamaica is my home. I bought a house in Jamaica. I have everything to my comfort, all I am lacking is a wife, and I believe I have found one. I am a Christian man, so from coming out here two and a half years ago, I have been attending church and I met a woman who was never married. I put in my application and she turned me down. But when she found out that I was not poor, she changed her mind and started to come around me. I told her I didn’t want anything from her except her company. I can help myself in every way and I love to cook. I am having a problem because this woman is 77 years old and when I told my children her age, they all say she is too old for me. I am now trying to pull myself away from her, but she is hanging on. She has a niece who is living with her who loves to see me around her aunt. This woman is a good baker. I lover her very much. She loves to bake pudding. My children say very soon I may have too many medical bills to pay if I marry this woman. I would like you to give me your advice.

CONCERNED

Dear CONCERNED,

I respect your children’s opinion, but they should bear in mind that if this woman is in good health and you are in good health, both of you can have a very good relationship for a long time. Your children are selfish to think that this woman would become ill very soon and you will have to spend a lot of money to take care of a lot of medical bills. You may become ill before this woman, and it would be her responsibility to take care of you. So I will not discourage from marrying this woman, but I suppose it’s human to question age and money and so on, because, think about it, if you are financially stable and this woman didn’t become aware of it, she wouldn’t have anything to do with you. So that is why when she first met you, she turned you down until she found out that you were financially stable and that you can take care of yourself and a woman. The ultimate decision is yours. You respect your children, but they should not try to control your life. If you love this woman and want her to be your wife, marry her.

Pastor