My older girlfriend is VERY FREAKY
Dear Pastor, I am a 33- 33-year-old year- old man. I was living with a woman for three years. I broke up with her because she was two- two-timing timing me. Whenever I went to work, she allowed men to come to the house. Neighbours told me about it and one of the neighbours used to go to the house to see her and he told people that I was such a fool.
She quit her job and was home for a year. She and I had a big fight because I came home and I knew that she had just had sex. She denied that any man was there. Our argument turned into a fight and, when I saw how I could get myself in trouble, I told her to leave. She said she didn’t have anywhere to go.
Pastor, I packed my stuff and I called my brother to pick me up and I stayed with him until I got another place to live. After that, this woman called me and admitted that she was seeing other men. When I met her, she told me that she was high maintenance and I was only giving her $25,000 and she can’t maintain herself with that and that is why she was always seeing other guys. None of them give her that amount of money, but, with what I give her and what she hustles out there, she can live. She says that I should see how she dresses and how she prepares herself for me. Pastor, I would rather a woman not do her nails and her hair every week. Just keep clean. I refused to take this woman back in my life. She says that the rent is hard to pay and I am just making her a full prostitute now by not giving her any money and not taking her back.
I am now involved with a 45-year-old woman who I have just moved in with. She has her own business. She has helped me to buy a car. I love her but I don’t love her as much h as the th other th woman. This Thi woman I am living with doesn’t need high-maintenance money; all she needs is me. And, although she is 45, she can get very freaky. She does not have children and I don’t know how this relationship is going to go, because I don’t have children either. But I would like to. I have a good job and I told her that I would like to travel, but she says I am not going anywhere without her.
I can’t walk out on this woman as I did the other woman, but sometimes I feel confused. So please give me your suggestion.
W.S.
Dear W.S.,
You ought to have known better to be involved with a woman who was not employed for over a year and you supported her. She was not ill and you left her at your house every day and went to work and paid her high-maintenance money every week. For what? She made a fool of you for a year and some people knew what was going on. At least you came to yourself and, after you had a fight, you broke up with her.
The woman with whom you are living now is much older. You said you do not love her as much as ‘high maintenance’. So your thoughts are still on her. It is not just sex why you ‘ Miss high maintenance’, because this 45-year-old woman does freaky things. So what is it that is causing you to remember the other woman?
Some Jamaicans would say that this woman has tied you. Perhaps I should not have said that because I don’t believe that a woman can tie a man to her or vice versa. It seems to me that you are with this older woman for convenience. You are living with her for benefits. You are getting food and you are living in a clean house and you are making love to a woman who is not a cheater. But, one thing is missing and that is genuine love. I don’t believe that you are going to eventually love her.
I am going to disappoint you by telling you that your current relationship has no future and, when this woman and you break up, it is going to really hurt. But you will have to prepare for it. Remember now, I have told you.
Pastor