Sleeping with my girlfriend’s niece

Dear Pastor,

I am living with a woman who is younger than I am. But I am ashamed to tell you that I had a relationship with her aunt. However, that was before I met her.

She knew that her aunt and I were ‘dealing’, because her aunt was living alone and I used to stay there. From the time I saw this girl, I liked her and I told her aunt that I loved her niece. Her aunt told me that she is a big girl and if I am going to have anything to do with her, I should not let her know. So I stopped visiting the aunt and I had her niece come see me at my garage.

One day I was at the garage and her aunt brought her car to be serviced. Her niece called to tell me she was coming to see me, but I told her not to because her aunt was there. She called back and said that she did not have any money. As bad luck would have it, when we were finished working on her aunt’s car, she would not leave. Later on, her niece texted me and told me where she was. So I sent some money for her with one of my workers. I had to promise the aunt that I would come to her house that night.

It was hard to behave as if I had not seen her for a long time. She had me talking all night.

She told me how she missed me. I pretended that I missed her, too. But her niece is not a saint. She has been ‘around the block’. I am an experienced man and I know when a woman is like that. I told her aunt that I want to settle down so she said that we should get married and live together. I cannot do that, Pastor, because I have found myself in love with her niece. I don’t know how to get out of this problem.

Right now I would love to buy a pickup, and this woman has offered to buy it. I cannot turn down the offer. So I told her

I will give her my answer soon. When I told her niece, she said that I should remember that she is not going to leave me, because she has given up her boyfriend for me.

I know that you are going to say that I am a worthless man to be going with a woman and her niece at the same time, but this is true, genuine love. So don’t condemn me, just tell me what to do.

T.

Dear T.,

I don’t have to condemn you. I will do exactly what I have done all these years, and that is to talk straight. You are a goodfor-nothing man. You have no shame. You know the type of relationship you had with this woman, therefore you ought not to have got involved with her niece. Even if she had thrown herself at you, you should have resisted her.

Do you think I don’t understand what you mean when you say the niece has been ‘around the block’? You are trying to say she has had a number of men, and you discovered that after having sex with her. If you suspected that she had a number of men, you shouldn’t even mention that. You don’t have any class. Good men don’t talk that way about women, especially the ones who they claim to be involved with. You are not a good man.

You have taken over this woman’s niece and she is in the dark. She does not know what you are doing. But I can tell you that you will pay for what you are doing. I hope that you will not take her money to buy a vehicle. If you prefer to go with her niece, she will eventually find out that you are no good.

There are so many guys like you who use older women, and you laugh and call them fools. But you in particular are using the woman and her niece. Get out of their lives before retribution catches you. Pastor