Can’t stop seeing my side chick

Dear Pastor,

I got involved with a young girl from she was 18 . When I met her, she told me that she did not want to get into a permanent relationship because she might not be faithful and she does not stay with one man too long. I asked her why she moves around and she said she makes more money doing so. This girl was renting an apartment in an upscale area and I asked her if what she makes allows her to pay for it and she said yes.

We had sex and, I am not ashamed to tell you, I gave her $10,000. She made me feel fully satisfied. Another time I called her and told her I was coming over and I wanted the full works. She told me to walk with money. When I got there, she was cooking, but she was only dressed in a thong. She gave me dinner. I was reluctant to eat but I took the chance. By the time I went to the bathroom, she was ready.

She showed me all the things that she uses and why she has good customers. I asked her if she was not afraid to go with so many different men and she said no. She said her sex toys were her friends and she makes sure that she cleans them every time she uses them. I told myself that was going to be the last time I went there. I gave her another $10,000 because she said I could not expect to give her less. I had never gone with a sweeter girl. She said she was saving to buy a car, so she was asking me to assist her. I tried to pull away from her but she called me every day. I found myself not being able to resist her, so I went to visit her late at nights.

I borrowed money from my credit union and gave her to buy the car. Now I do not have to pay her any money when we have sex, but I was always wondering who was at her house. Sometimes when I called, she didn’t answer, so I knew she was entertaining someone. I made up my mind to go back to my regular girl who gave me ordinary sex. I have always been able to trust my regular girl.

I admitted to her that I had a fling with another woman and she insisted that I should do a blood test to find out whether I had picked up any sexually transmitted disease.

Whenever this hot girl is broke, she asks me for some money. I take it to her or tell her where she can meet me during my lunchtime. I am afraid of her. I told her that I am back with my regular girl. It is not good for a man to have side chicks, as they eat everything from you.

This girl has got lots of money from me, including a motor car. My regular girl does not own her own car. Don’t bother to call me stupid. I have already given myself that name.

J.I.

Dear J.I.,

What you have done today is to give a lesson to all men who are promiscuous. While I was reading your letter, I thought about a young lady who was also 18, who told me that she was a prostitute, but she was attending university and paying her bills by selling sex. She told me that she does not have sex for love, she had sex for money. It was a lesson I have never forgotten.

This young woman you met was an expensive prostitute. I am saying that but I could be wrong, because a woman who was a guest on my show told all my radio listeners that she does not sell her body for less than $10,000. I remember a woman called in and verbally abused my guest and the guest said “If I hold your husband, I just have to hold him one time and you will never get him back.” These girls know what to do to hold the men and to turn them into idiots and also to get money from them.

Look at you. This woman did not get money often from you; she was able to also convince you to buy her a motor car. Sir, I am glad that you are back with your regular girlfriend. You made a mistake that you will never forget and you have learned from it. Try and settle down with your girlfriend. Stop blowing your money with so-called hot girls.

Pastor