Boyfriend’s penis is TOO SMALL FOR A CONDOM

Dear Pastor,

I am 21 years old and I have a concern. I am tall and I weigh more than 200 pounds.

I have a boyfriend and his penis is very small. I had a few boyfriends before him and they never had a problem using the condom. But my present boyfriend’s penis is so small that the condom does not stay on. I could not believe that could happen, until one day he told me that he felt as if the condom had rolled off. He jumped up and was just in time to put his finger in me to take it out of my vagina.

I did not understand how a man could be so tall and have such a small penis. But I have discovered that with the condom, it is not a one size fits all. I fretted all month after having sex with this man and the condom did not work. When I saw my period, I was very happy. I spoke to a nurse, who told me that the next time I go to see a gynaecologist, I should ask her what size condom my boyfriend should use.

He is a loving man, but I don’t want him to get me pregnant. Please give me your advice.

E.C.

Dear E.C.,

Some men are endowed and they are very proud of it; and some women love to talk about how ‘gifted’ these men are. Such men have to use condoms that are described as ‘maxxum’ (I don’t wish to advertise this brand, but I am trying to assist you). However, men who are not very gifted have to try to find condoms that fit them. It is not a joke, but their women can assist them. It is not the size that is important, but it is the way it is put on a man’s penis. Some women take great pleasure in putting on the condom on the erect penis. It should be rolled down the shaft, and a small pocket should be left at the top to collect the semen.

You should also understand that if you do not wish to get pregnant, you should insist that your gentleman uses condoms that are made of latex. They are safer than the condoms that are made from lamb skin. I am saying all these things to help you and others.

If your boyfriend is indeed very small as you have indicated, and he tries to use the condom, it can slip off without him knowing it. I am glad that you did not become pregnant. But this is a matter that your boyfriend and you should talk about, because even after you are married, this man and you may use the condom as you practise safe sex.

I did not understand how a man could be so tall and have such a small penis. But I have discovered that with the condom, it is not a one size fits all.