I adopted my husband’s LOVE CHILD

Dear Pastor,

I am 81 years old, and you are a special pastor to me. That is why I listen to your show every night. I live with my son and his wife. I would not say that they are living with me; I live with them, although the house is mine.

My daughter-in-law is such a wonderful girl, and she considers me to be special to her; that is what she told me. I don’t have a care in this world. I have everything to my comfort.

My beloved husband died seven years ago. He left me almost everything that he had. He had two apartments, in addition to this house, which is a three-bedroom house. Those apartments are for his children. One of his daughters is not my child. He got her while we were married. When the woman told him that she is pregnant for him, he came and he told me, and he got down on his knees and begged me to forgive him. For days I did not talk to him. He cried and cried and begged me not to let anyone know that he is unfaithful to me.

I called the woman and I asked her if she would give up the baby after she gives birth. She said she was thinking of giving it up for adoption. I told her that I would take the baby. I helped her to provide everything for the birth of the child. When I told my husband what I did, he still begged me to forgive him. So, I told him that is what I did and that is why I am taking the child.

The man went into our bank account, took out some money, and bought me a car. When I saw the car, I started to cry. We made up. I took the child from the mother and grew her as my very own. She calls me mommy. She is a beautiful woman, but I learnt not to trust my husband any more, because I did not know that he had his eyes on anybody else but me.

He said that it is the biggest mistake in his life. He told me how it happened, which I would not tell you now, but if the day comes when we meet, I will tell you.

My husband became ill and I took care of him, and the two girls were with him when he passed on. That young lady who is an outside child is also married and living in Canada with her husband. She calls me just about every day. When I listen to you on the radio and hear your suggestions, I say to myself, you are doing a good job, and sometimes I laugh at the things you say. I read your column often.

Pastor, there are times my daughter asked me if I don’t want to go anywhere. I tell them to go where they want to go, just leave my grandchildren and I will take care of them. I am still strong. I cook whenever I feel like it. I don’t have a care in this world. I hope that you will keep my company for a long long time to come. I love you. This house that we are living in now will go to my son.

Dear D.,

You are a very wise woman. You had a good marriage. Your husband ‘flew his kite’ and he came to you and did not deny what he did. He humbled himself to you.

I can see the poor man on his knees begging you for forgiveness. That day, if you had a strap, he would have taken all the beatings from you across his back. You knew he was genuinely sorry for what he did. But I say that you are a wise woman because you did not call the woman, who was carrying his child, and curse her for your husband. If you did, you have not said it.

You supported her during the pregnancy, and because she was willing to give you the child, that made your husband love you even more. You were wise, very wise.

Evidently, your husband made good investments; he has two apartments and the matrimonial home. The two girls are married and they take good care of you. I am happy to know that you are quite comfortable. Serve the Lord and continue to take good care of yourself. Call me on my show, I will be glad to talk to you.

Pastor