I have a crush on a

Dear Pastor,

I am a regular listener to your show and I have been reading your column for a long time. I am just 18 years old, but I like a guy and judging by his behaviour around me, I think he likes me too.

He is very shy. Some of my friends told me that they know that he likes me. I know other guys and they have asked me to go out with them, but I am waiting on this guy to invite me.

I am wondering if it is wrong for me to break the ice by inviting him out, and to let him know that he

Dear D.,

You suspect that this young man likes you but he has not told you so. Your friends said that they know he does. You are getting impatient. You want to know whether you should take the initiative and invite him out on a date. I am wondering how you would react if he tells you that he is not interested in going out with you.

Your friends are encouraging you to make this would not have to pay for anything. On Valentine’s Day I called him and asked him what he was doing. He said he was not feeling well so I didn’t bother to tell him that I wanted to go out with him. I stayed home all day, playing music and dancing with my younger brother.

My parents went out in the evening. I got calls from my girlfriends and they all said they had dates. guy know that you like him. A young woman can show interest in a man, but many persons believe that it is the man who should make the approach to a woman.

In our society some men do not like women who approach them first. However, it is not wrong for a woman to take the initiative and to let a man know that she likes him. Unfortunately, when a woman does it, she may turn off the man.

I am a well-behaved girl. I have never had sexual intercourse. I would like to know how that feels, but I am not giving myself to men I do not love.

I am hoping to go into the military. I have always wanted to be a soldier. I have seven Caribbean Secondary Education Certificate subjects.

This young man that I am telling you about likes politics and that is something I do not like at all. Do you think that someone who is in politics and his spouse in the military would make a good couple?

Call this young man as often as possible. Discuss current events. If he likes sports; talk about that, but do not tell him directly that you are interested in him.

If you are a good conversationalist he would enjoy talking to you and it would be natural for both of you to tell each other how you feel about each other. Don’t be pushy, he may resent that.

Pastor