MISERABLE WIFE MADE ME STRAY

Dear Pastor,

I hope you are doing well. I have written to you before and you helped me very much. I had no one to confide in and to got advice.

I thank you very much, Pastor. Now I want your honest advice again. I am presenting the most relevant information.

I am currently 27 and I have been married for three years. My wife is 49 but she doesn’t look her age. I had two sons but one passed away a few months after he was born. I am the breadwinner in my family. I have always encouraged my wife to seek a job. I told her that if she was working it would be much easier for us to pay bills. But any time I raise the issue, she says I am embarrassing and insulting her because she can’t read very well. I told her I will help her, and she can even go on YouTube to learn to read.

Sometimes when my eightyear-old son goes to her with homework, and she tells him she does not know how to do it, which is very embarrassing. Furthermore, whenever I go home, the place is untidy and she tells me that it is our son who has pulled the place apart. I get irritated because she is at home all day on her phone and the place is not kept in order.

Normally some females try to save. No matter how large or small the money is, my wife doesn’t do that at all and it upsets me because she looks to me for everything. As a man, I don’t have any problem providing for her because I am the man of the house. But if I should fail at my job, there is nothing to back me up. At times I really feel stressed.

I don’t have any friends or family members to help me. I am alone. Whenever I talk, she tells me things she ought not to say. I don’t want my family to suffer. My wife hardly cares for me, especially since she got baptised. I am not against her serving God, but she has completely changed. She says I complain too much, so I have stopped trying to reason with her. She says it seems as if I am not interested in her any more. But Pastor, she has caused me to lose interest. I used to be a wild man, but after I got married, I stopped the running around. But now, I am back on my wild ways so that I can get some comfort.

I have slept with a few ladies. I eventually met a woman who is much

older than me who treats me well. Sometimes I wish my wife would do her wifely duties and keep me focused and at home. I know I’m wrong, but the other lady is now pregnant for me. I know this will certainly cause an argument in my marriage or even a break-up and that is something I don’t want. Regardless of the situation, I have told myself that I am not leaving my wife. If only she would take my advice for us to accomplish a little more together. In regards to the pregnancy, I plan on telling her about it, but I don’t know when. It is going to be hard.

I await your response.

S.B.

Dear S.B.,

Your wife has taken you for granted for too long. But you should know that a person who cannot read well will not be able to judge matters intelligently.

It is unfortunate that she has never tried to get a job and to improve her reading skills. I am sorry you have been hitting the road again and sleeping with other women, but you should not blame your wife for what you have done, such as getting another woman pregnant. Tell your wife the situation and do so early. I don’t expect her to leave you. You should make an appointment for your wife and you to go to a family counsellor and try to save your marriage.

Pastor

Sometimes I wish my wife would do her wifely duties and keep me focused and at home.