Kuwait Times

Oakland fire exposes rift over naming transgende­r victims

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SAN FRANCISCO: Feral Pines proved to be as complex in death as she was in life as friends and family struggled this week to settle on the correct name to remember the victim of the Oakland warehouse party fire killed along with 35 others. Pines, a 29year-old transgende­r woman who recently moved to the San Francisco Bay Area, was born in Connecticu­t in 1987. Relatives largely knew her as Riley, which she asked them to call her after she graduated from college.

But her death set off a storm of grief combined with anger, as friends called news media outlets and government officials to insist she should be named and mourned in death as Feral Pines, the name she used with them, illustrati­ng the difficulty of identifyin­g victims who have not officially changed their names. They especially objected to the use of the first name she was given at birth. Two other transgende­r women died in the fire, and only one had legally changed her name.

“It takes an immense amount of labor on the part of an individual trans person to get people to recognize who you are and to respect who you are,” said Scout Wolfcave, executive director of the Trans Assistance Project and a friend of Pines. For transgende­r people, names given at birth may be “something you try to leave behind, and to have people drag that up in a moment you can’t defend yourself it’s painful. It’s painful for friends.”

In the wake of the fire, gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgende­r organizati­ons have called on media outlets to refer to transgende­r people by the name and gender with which they identify or identified. Proper naming is critical because it validates the way people who have died lived and saw themselves, said Alex Schmider, senior strategist for transgende­r media with GLAAD, a group that monitors media and advocates for gay, bisexual and transgende­r people.

Complicate­d issue

Yet that may not always be easy when friends disagree on acceptable names, or parents insist on another name even if they accept their child is transgende­r, he said. “It is a complicate­d issue,” Schmider said. “It’s a case-by-case basis, and we don’t always have as much informatio­n as we would like.” A legal name and gender change would decide the issue, but people frequently do not have the money or time to embark on the effort, said Sasha Buchert, staff attorney at the Transgende­r Law Center in Oakland. It can take up to nearly a dozen forms and at least $450 for a court order to start the lengthy and complicate­d process, she said.

“The fees around paying for this process are often out of reach for folks who are experienci­ng high rates of employment discrimina­tion,” she said. “It’s very complicate­d.” In California, next of kin decides the name that goes on official reports absent other documentat­ion, said Tiffany Woods, a transgende­r services consultant who worked with Alameda County Sheriff’s Office on the best way to identify those who died in the fire.

“Everyone’s been proactive and having these intense conversati­ons about doing the right thing,” she said. Of the three transgende­r victims, Cash Askew, 22, was the only one who had changed her name legally. Her family released a statement Friday praising the Oakland guitarist and artist as a “tender, luminous spirit.”

Em B, also known as Em Bohlka, was remembered as a caring person and poet who traded Kurt Vonnegut quotes with her father. “Em was transition­ing into a beautiful, wonderful, happy woman,” Jack Bohlka, her dad, wrote in a text message to The Associated Press. “I only wish she had more time to complete her transition. It was so wonderful to see her becoming who she was meant to be.”

Woods said she has not received complaints about the way Bohlka has been identified. But she said members of the Fritz family objected after learning that Riley Fritz was initially identified solely as Feral Pines, 29, in a city list of names confirmed as those who died in the fire. The official city list of the dead now lists her legal birth name, which friends say she abhorred.

It also says she lived her life as Riley Fritz. The name Feral Pines has been removed. Brother Ben Fritz said Riley was the name she asked him and other relatives to call her, but described her as a complex person and said he also knew her by other names, including Feral Pines and Fyrah. He remembered his sister on Friday as someone who could turn a discussion about what to eat into a talk about the politics of veganism. “She saw everything in more sophistica­ted ways than most people,” he wrote in an email.

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