Trauma can have lasting impact, says expert
OFTEN, the impact of harassment is worse and lasts longer than the harassment, says Dr Yeo Pei Li, a licensed professional counsellor at the Rekindle Centre for Systemic Therapy.
“Experiencing harassment can be traumatic and can increase the person’s tendency to develop anxiety or depression, loneliness, anxiousness, fearfulness, shame, rejection and powerlessness.
“Mentally, they may be shocked and in disbelief. Eating and sleeping patterns may change. Some have nightmares.
“They may also lose confidence, and relationships with friends and family may suffer. If left unattended, there’s also a suicidal risk.”
Based on a Malaysian Communications and Multimedia Commission survey this year, 80 per cent of Internet use in Malaysia is on social networks. Internet users have an average of four social media accounts, and spend four hours a day on social media.
Studies show that parents are often unaware of their children’s cyberbullying experience, whether as cyberbullies or victims, Yeo says.
“Parents need to be mindful of their children’s online activities. They need to be educated on the problem, know how to discuss it with their children, recognise the signs and be able to work closely with schools.
“Have your child unfriend or block the bully wherever possible. Tell your child not to bully or retaliate.
“Do not minimise their fear and worries, instead be supportive and let them know you’re there to help.
“If things don’t improve, emotionally and psychologically, do get help from healthcare professionals and the authorities.”
She says receiving death or rape threats and abusive comments can be an extremely traumatic experience, but it can be reduced, and with therapy, the experience can be a learning tool instead of a road to destruction.