‘Behave, or would be held here forever’, immigrants kids told
BOSTON: When the eightyear-old stepped off a plane here earlier this month with freshly cut bangs and a shelter-issued sweatsuit, she was met by crowds and television cameras and finally, in a carpeted airport conference room, by the mother who had been taken from her two months earlier at the border.
But now, a day after that joyous reunion, the girl from Guatemala was shoving a toddler who had tried to give her a hug and a kiss at a welcoming party in the suburbs. Now she was screaming and crying and telling the boy to stay away.
This is what two months in a Texas shelter had taught Sandy Gonzalez.
“They always kept the boys and the girls separate,” the secondgrader explained last week. “And they punished us if we went near each other.”
Under court order, federal officials have begun to return the more than 2,500 immigrant children taken from their parents under the Trump administration’s short-lived family separation policy. Across the country, mothers and fathers are slowly being reunited with the children they last saw being led away by Border Patrol agents weeks or months ago.
Experts warn that many of these children may be deeply traumatised by their experiences. Their voices have seldom been heard during the frenzied debate over family separation.
“I felt like a prisoner,” said Diogo De Olivera Filho, a nineyear-old from Brazil who spent five weeks at a shelter in Chicago, including three weeks in isolation after getting chickenpox. When he got lonely and left his quarantined room to see other kids, he said the shelter put up a gate to keep him in. “I felt like a dog,” he said.
He and Sandy are among the six children recently released from the shelters who described to The Washington Post what their time separated from their parents was like.
One 11-year-old boy from Guatemala who spent six weeks in the same Chicago shelter as Diogo said he had to ask permission to hug his sister. Some of the children said they now suffer from nightmares. A few, including Sandy, have had difficulty trusting their parents again.
Most of the children were reluctant to talk about what they went through while they were detained.
“I don’t want to remember,” said one 10-year-old, who recounted watching an out-of-control kindergartner get injected with
Experts warn that many of these children may be deeply traumatised by their experiences. Their voices have seldom been heard during the frenzied debate over family separation.
something after he misbehaved in class.
Parents sometimes learned the details of their kids’ time in custody by listening to them talk to The Post.
Sandy was reunited with her mother on July 5 after 55 days at Southwest Key Combes, a shelter in Harlingen, Texas, that was caring for about 60 kids. Some had been separated from their parents; some had crossed the border on their own.
For Sandy, it was a place of sorrow, fear and scoldings.
“They told us to behave,” she said, “or we’d be there forever.”
When Angelica Gonzalez-Garcia decided to flee her abusive husband in eastern Guatemala earlier this year, she left it to her daughter, then seven, to decide whether to stay behind with her grandparents.
“I want to go with you, Mommy,” she said Sandy replied.
Gonzalez-Garcia said she didn’t know about President Donald Trump’s new “zero tolerance” policy and the push to separate children from their parents to discourage families from coming to the United States.
On May 9, shortly after illegally crossing the border between Mexico and Arizona, Sandy and her mother suddenly found themselves surrounded by Border Patrol vehicles. Gonzalez-Garcia told them she was seeking asylum.
They were taken in the back of a pickup truck to a Border Patrol holding facility known as a hielera, or icebox, and put in a room with a few dozen other migrants and one toilet, surrounded by a low partition.
Sandy was too embarrassed to use the toilet. She and her mother slept on a plastic mat on the floor with two other people. They were given thin metallic mylar blankets for the cold.
“They didn’t give us anything (else) to cover us,” recalled the girl with almond-shaped eyes and gaps between her teeth, crossing her arms as if shivering at the thought. “They gave us soup, just soup, and some cookies and juice.”
After a day in the hielera, Gonzalez-Garcia said Border Patrol agents told her they were going to take her daughter away and deport Gonzalez-Garcia. As they asked her to sign documents authorising the separation, one agent wished her a Happy Mother’s Day, which is celebrated in Guatemala on May 10.
That night, Gonzalez-Garcia tried to prepare Sandy for what was coming.
“I told her it was like a vacation, she’d be playing, there’d be dolls, and ballgames and pizza” - Sandy’s favourite food, recalled Gonzalez-Garcia. “I told her not to cry.”
Before dawn on May 11, Border Patrol agents took mother and daughter to a trailer with showers. Gonzalez tried not to get emotional as she bathed her girl for what she thought might be the last time, then dressed her in a baggy blue uniform.
“She brushed my hair, she gave me a kiss and she hugged me,” Sandy remembered.
When it came time to go, however, the girl tried to hide under the mylar blankets.
“Don’t tell them I’m under here,” Sandy said, according to her mother. “They can look for me but they won’t find me.”
But they did find her. And suddenly she was alone for the first time in her life.
“They put me in a car, then two airplanes, then another car, then another,” she said. She cried for much of it. “I was so sad,” Sandy said.
When Sandy arrived at the Southwest Key shelter, the first thing she remembers is being lined up with other new kids and being told the rules: No touching, no talking to boys, lights on at 6.30 am lights out at 8 pm.
For a girl who’d grown up running freely around her neighbourhood in Guatemala, playing and asking tourists for candy, the restrictions were a shock.
She said some of the shelter employees were nice, but others shouted “be quiet” at her and the other kids. Sandy said she had trouble falling asleep and the food tasted “nasty.”
She spent part of each day in school, but was put in a class that was too advanced for her. “It was stuff for older kids,” she said.
Jeff Eller, a spokesman for Southwest Key, one of the country’s biggest shelter providers, said he couldn’t discuss Sandy’s account of her time in custody.
“We have appropriate touching policies in place, so we can keep all kids safe,” he said. “We have a 20-year history of providing compassionate child care and we’re proud of what we do.”
More than two weeks passed before Sandy’s mother was able to call her from an ICE detention centre in Colorado.
“When she heard my voice she stayed quiet,” Gonzalez-Garcia recalled. “She didn’t say anything. I asked how she was, and all she said was ‘Fine.’ “
When the girl did start talking, what she said startled her mother. Her birthday on May 19 had passed without anyone at the shelter noticing, she said. The staff shouted at the children, she told her mom, and a boy had kicked her in the face during recess.
Sandy kept asking her mother why she hadn’t come to get her, Gonzalez-Garcia recalled. The 31year-old promised her daughter she’d come as soon as she could, and give her a birthday party with pizza and gifts.
Sandy also told her mom that she had gotten conjunctivitis and been put into a room by herself. (“When a child enters with or contracts a communicable disease,” Eller said, “we make sure to minimise their contact with other children with guidance from medical professionals.”)
Asked what she did all day alone in a room, Sandy said she played a memory game with cards. The only other game was checkers.
“And that was for two people,” she said, “so I couldn’t play.”
Like Sandy, all the children who spoke to The Washington Post struggled to cope with being ripped away from their parents and then placed in shelters filled with unfamiliar adults and unfamiliar rules.
“There were people there who only spoke English, and they always said to us, ‘No touch, No touch,’ “recalled Leidy Veliz, a pencil-thin nine-year-old from Guatemala who was sent along with her brother to a Chicago shelter called Casa Guadalupe, run by a non-profit called Heartland Alliance.
Her brother, Victor, 11, said he had to ask permission to hug Leidy at the shelter, a cluster of three houses in the suburbs that housed about 60 kids.
“You always had to be ‘an arm’s length’ from everyone,” Victor said as the siblings repeated in unison the phrase in Spanish: “Un brazo de distancia. Un brazo de distancia.”
Girls were kept in a separate house, so Victor only got to see his sister twice a day during recess.
Victor said the children were told there were “hidden cameras” everywhere except the bathrooms and bedrooms, so any misbehaviour would be caught on video.
He and Leidy said they feared running afoul of the rules and being reported - a worry echoed by all the children The Post interviewed.
They also feared other punishment. Victor said he was once “dragged” inside by two adult male shelter employees after lingering on the soccer field - his most painful memory from the shelter.
Diogo De Olivera Filho, the nine-year-old from Brazil, said he was used to sleeping late but that habit quickly got him in trouble at Casa Guadalupe.
“They told me, ‘If you keep doing that, you’re going to have to stay here until you’re 18,’ “he said.
Diogo and another Brazilian boy he befriend, Diego Magalhaes, 10, said they saw a troubled fiveyear-old boy repeatedly injected with something that made him fall asleep at his desk. The boy’s father had been deported, Diego said, and he often melted down during the daily classes the immigrant children were given.
“I was very scared,” Diego said. “I thought they were going to inject me, too.”
Asked about the children’s accounts, Heartland Alliance said in a statement that it took concerns about its shelters “extremely seriously.”
“We have extensive policies, procedures, and standards of care that guide our trauma-informed approach to ensure the safety and well-being of all children in our care,” the statement said. “While this does include daily routines and structure, age-appropriate chores, and practices to prevent the spread of communicable illnesses, we understand how these practices may be experienced by young children who are already suffering emotionally from being apart from those they love most.”
One day, Diego said he was playing soccer on a concrete basketball court when he fell and felt his arm crunch. He said regular shelter employees - not doctors or nurses - examined him, told him his arm was fractured and then gave him a temporary cast that he wore for weeks.
“It still hurts,” Diego said, running his fingers over the injury.
After Diogo got chickenpox, he was moved from his room with three other boys to a playroom converted into a makeshift infirmary. There were toys and video games, he said, but the video games didn’t work.
“They were just for show,” he said. There were no other kids there and often no adults either, he said. When he got bored and left the room, he said employees scolded him and added the gate.
“They told me I couldn’t get out because I’d infect everybody,” added Diogo, who spent almost three weeks in isolation.
He and the other children said they were assigned cleaning duties at Casa Guadalupe. In addition to washing dishes and helping serve food, they had to scrub the bathroom at least twice a week.
“They didn’t even give us gloves to clean the toilet,” Diego said.