Golden rules for good interpersonal relationships
WHEN you are in the corporate world, there are some rules that you must observe in order to avoid stumbling and falling.
This week, we will look at some of the golden rules to build good interpersonal relationships with others in the workplace.
Be appreciative Do not feel that it is your right to be treated well by others. Learn to be thankful and appreciate all the little things others have done for you.
Put people above things Whenever you give any criticism, focus on the issues and do not attack the person. In other words, be compassionate and understanding towards others.
Do not let any blunder damage your relationship with others. Be willing to overlook others’ mistakes and give them a chance to start anew or make up for their mistakes.
Using “We” and “I” When it comes to giving credit or compliments, always use “We”.
When it comes to admitting mistakes or blunders; always take responsibility for your own faults and use “I”.
Avoid gossip Whenever others criticise or gossip about another person, just keep quiet and maintain a smile.
Do not join in the gossip and add in negative comments. At the end of the day, it will be your words used against the person being criticised.
Show concern Visit your colleagues or friends when they are sick. Show your concern and care by supporting them when they are weak.
Sincerity Sincerity is precious. Show it in all your dealings with others. For instance, shake someone’s hand and hold it for a little while instead of merely brushing the person’s hand.
Be humble Self- criticism will be easily taken in by others. Self-praise is the opposite and usually will not be well received.
Hence, at all times, be humble and admit you are not perfect. You do not have to boast about how good you are. If you are really good, others will notice it without being told.
Present yourself well If you look good, others will tend to like you. If you do not possess good looks, you can still be presentable in all aspects.
Always make sure you maintain a smile and friendly demeanour. Nobody will be displeased with a smiling face.
Speak well of others Insist on speaking well of others behind their backs. In this way, you will not have to fear that these good comments reach them.
On the contrary, if you speak ill of others, you will regret it later and worry whether your negative words will be known to them.
Your past You do not have to tell everyone about your past. Do not bore others by rattling on about your past, be they stories of success or failure.
Only share your past when it is helpful to others. Priscilla Hiu is a career guidance consultant of Gracia Management and a certified behavioural consultant of DISC Personality Profiling System, Institution of Motivation Living, USA and Extended DISC Personality Profiling System, Extended DISC Northgate.