Mekong women sold as wives

Many promised a better future in China but end up as commodity

PHNOM PENH: Everyone did well from Nary’s marriage to a Chinese man, except the young Cambodian bride herself, who returned home from the six-year ordeal destitute, humiliated and with little prospect of seeing her son again.

Her brother ran away with US$3,000 (RM12,600) after cajoling the then 17-year-old to leave Cambodia to marry. Brokers split the remaining US$7,000 (RM29,400) paid by her Chinese husband, who got himself a longed-for heir.

But her wedding to a stranger thousands of miles from home, in a language she could not understand, was ill-fated from the start.

“It was not a special day for me,” Nary said.

She is one of tens of thousands of young Cambodian, Vietnamese, Laos and Myanmar women – and girls – who marry Chinese men each year, plugging a gender gap incubated by Beijing’s three-decadelong one-child policy.

While the policy has ended, a shortfall of around 33 million women has left the same number of men facing life on the shelf.

Poverty drives many women from the Mekong region to gamble on marriage in China, double-locked by low education levels and a social expectation to provide for parents.

Others move for work but end up forced into marriage. The worst cases involve kidnapping and trafficking across porous borders.

There are happy marriages, with women also able to provide for the poor villages they left behind. But new domestic realities frequently unravel, leaving women at risk of abuse, detention under Chinese immigration law or “resale” into prostitution.

Nary – whose name has been changed on her request – spoke to a Cambodian marriage broker on her older brother’s advice.

“I trusted him,” Nary said in a whisper, as rain drove through holes in the tin roof of her family’s roadside shack outside Phnom Penh.

“My family is poor and I was expected to help them by marrying a Chinese man. So I went.”

But her brother stole the dowry that was meant to help the whole family and has since vanished.

To buy a wife in China costs between US$10,000 (RM42,000) and US$15,000 (RM63,000), a sum paid to brokers who give a couple of thousand to overseas associates for recruiting the brides.

A “dowry” of between US$1,000 (RM4,200) and US$3,000 is dangled in front of the bride’s family, while the young woman herself is last in the money chain, if she receives anything at all.

“Families are now looking to their daughters to see the ‘interest’ they can return to them,” says Chou Bun Eng, vice-chair of Cambodia’s National Committee for Counter Trafficking, referring to the money motive that prevails in some homes.

The marriage trade is big business – official figures say 10,000 Cambodian women alone are registered in the southern provinces of Guangdong, Guizhou and Yunnan.

Brides are often “warehoused” on arrival and their photos touted on WeChat and dating websites to would-be husbands.

The younger and prettier they are, the more expensive.

Nary travelled legally on a tourist visa to China but on arrival in Shanghai, she discovered the man who paid for her hand was a construction worker living in a village, not the “wealthy doctor” she had been promised.

In Cambodia, brokers and other third parties can be jailed for up to 15 years if caught, longer if the victim is a minor.

But convictions are rare, with brokers paying up to US$5,000 (RM21,000) to buy victims’ silence.

“The victims need the money,” a leading trafficking prosecutor said.

China also has laws against the practice, but enforcement is patchy in a country where family matters are given a wide berth by the authorities.

Nary’s marriage imploded one month after she gave birth to a baby boy, when her mother-in-law abruptly stopped her breastfeeding the infant. “She wouldn’t let me see him or even hold him,” she said.

The family pushed for divorce, but with an expired visa Nary knew that leaving the home would make her presence illegal in China.

Eventually she moved out and found a low-paid job for a few years in a nearby glass factory.

But her immigration status caught up with her and she was held in a detention centre for a year with scores of Vietnamese and Cambodian women, all with similar tales.

After her release, her mother reached out to a Cambodian charity who engineered her return in August this year.

Now she works for minimum wage in a garment factory, free from a bad marriage, but separated from her child.

“I know I will never see him again,” she says. — AFP