Give re­la­tion­ships some space

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I READ with great ex­cite­ment “Ten­u­ous re­la­tion­ship” (Fam­ily Teh Time, Nov 22) as it is re­al­is­tic and true.

The re­la­tion­ship be­tween a daugh­ter-in­law and mother-in-law is not easy and like a roller-coaster.

Ku­dos to Ly­dia for point­ing out this nonex­ist­ing un­con­di­tional love be­tween moth­erin-law and daugh­ter-in-law.

The last few para­graphs were the best part of the ar­ti­cle, where Ly­dia ad­vises that min­imis­ing con­tact with each other may solve the prob­lem.

I be­lieve that dis­tance be­tween the two could pro­vide a so­lu­tion as “Ab­sence makes the heart grow fonder”.

When there is a strain in a re­la­tion­ship, the best so­lu­tion is:

Keep a dis­tance for a short pe­riod to pon­der about what has hap­pened.

Talk to oth­ers but be cau­tious in choos­ing who to share it with as well as the ex­tent of open­ness you wish to es­tab­lish. Take a break. Keep­ing dis­tance doesn’t mean to stay away from the per­son for­ever but just un­til the is­sue has cooled off.

Think about what you could have said or done which hurt the other per­son. Apol­o­gise if nec­es­sary. Say­ing sorry can do won­ders to mend a bro­ken re­la­tion­ship.

Con­fide in a friend or any­one who you can ab­so­lutely trust over a cup of cof­fee and prob­a­bly one who has also gone through sim­i­lar sit­u­a­tions.

They would be able to share their ex­pe­ri­ence and you would be sur­prised how shar­ing your prob­lems can make your heart lighter too. Not for­get­ting to men­tion, it would also re­duce your stress level and who knows other health re­lated prob­lems.

Take a break. A change of en­vi­ron­ment, fresh air, and new sur­round­ings can make us feel re­freshed.

You don’t have to go over­seas. A walk in the park, a jog, a swim or any other phys­i­cal ac­tiv­ity of your choice could be a good op­tion too. Con­nect with mother na­ture and let your re­la­tion­ship woes dis­solve.

PS Se­berang Jaya

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