Give relationships some space
I READ with great excitement “Tenuous relationship” (Family Teh Time, Nov 22) as it is realistic and true.
The relationship between a daughter-inlaw and mother-in-law is not easy and like a roller-coaster.
Kudos to Lydia for pointing out this nonexisting unconditional love between motherin-law and daughter-in-law.
The last few paragraphs were the best part of the article, where Lydia advises that minimising contact with each other may solve the problem.
I believe that distance between the two could provide a solution as “Absence makes the heart grow fonder”.
When there is a strain in a relationship, the best solution is:
Keep a distance for a short period to ponder about what has happened.
Talk to others but be cautious in choosing who to share it with as well as the extent of openness you wish to establish. Take a break. Keeping distance doesn’t mean to stay away from the person forever but just until the issue has cooled off.
Think about what you could have said or done which hurt the other person. Apologise if necessary. Saying sorry can do wonders to mend a broken relationship.
Confide in a friend or anyone who you can absolutely trust over a cup of coffee and probably one who has also gone through similar situations.
They would be able to share their experience and you would be surprised how sharing your problems can make your heart lighter too. Not forgetting to mention, it would also reduce your stress level and who knows other health related problems.
Take a break. A change of environment, fresh air, and new surroundings can make us feel refreshed.
You don’t have to go overseas. A walk in the park, a jog, a swim or any other physical activity of your choice could be a good option too. Connect with mother nature and let your relationship woes dissolve.
PS Seberang Jaya