What are we so afraid of?

Malta Independent - - FEATURE -

Why would we want to dis­miss Romeo and Juliet or those who claim to be like them?

We talk ex­cit­edly about meet­ing some­one and how we “click” or “re­ally hit it off” – how we feel in­ti­mately ac­quainted even though we’ve only just met. This is our way of be­liev­ing in low-grade love at first sight, while still scorn­ing its full-blown form.

Imag­ine if we did what Romeo and Juliet do. They show the signs that we tend to re­gard as hall­marks of “ma­ture” love – pro­found pas­sion, in­ti­macy and com­mit­ment – right away. For Shake­speare, if you have this, you have love, whether it takes six months or six min­utes.

It’s easy to say that peo­ple don’t love each other when they first meet be­cause they don’t know each other and haven’t had a chance to form a true at­tach­ment. Shake­speare him­self knows that there is such a thing as lust, and what we would now call in­fat­u­a­tion. He’s no fool.

Still, he re­minds us – as force­fully as we ever will be re­minded – that some peo­ple, right away, do know each other deeply. Love gives them in­sight into each other. Love makes them pledge them­selves to each other. Love makes them in­ven­tive. Yes, it also makes them ridicu­lous.

But that’s just an­other of love’s glo­ries. It makes be­ing ridicu­lous per­mis­si­ble.

This ar­ti­cle was orig­i­nally pub­lished on The Con­ver­sa­tion. Read the orig­i­nal ar­ti­cle here: http://the­con­ver­sa­tion.com/should-we-scoff-atthe-idea-of-love-at-first-sight-102094

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