Give up the sighs and be happy

Life’s too short to be un­happy so fol­low th­ese tips for hap­pi­ness, writes Erin Reilly.

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If your day is filled with more sighs than smiles, it might be time to re-eval­u­ate your life.

Let’s not beat around the bush here: some­times life is be­lowa­v­er­age. Jobs we don’t like, places we don’t like liv­ing, un­healthy life­styles, un­healthy re­la­tion­ships, no re­la­tion­ships at all… Where there’s dis­con­tent­ment, there’s also a feel­ing of un­ful­fil­ment, which usu­ally cul­mi­nates in an over­all feel­ing of dis­sat­is­fac­tion in life.

Keen to in­fuse 2018 with a bit more hap­pi­ness? Here are a few tips.

HANG AROUND PEO­PLE WHO MAKE YOU SMILE

Take a good long look at the state of your re­la­tion­ships. If you have a part­ner or friend who al­ways makes you feel bad about your­self, it might be time to find new friends.

Cut­ting peo­ple from your life isn’t nice or easy, but erad­i­cat­ing the neg­a­tiv­ity is an in­vi­ta­tion for pos­i­tiv­ity to fill the gaps.

THINK GLASS-HALF-FULL

The fact is, life hap­pens – and some­times there’s noth­ing you can do about it. Pick your­self up, shake your­self off, and choose to think pos­i­tively. Stop let­ting life get you down; try to find a glim­mer of pos­i­tiv­ity in even the dark­est of days.

FIND A JOB YOU LOVE

If you don’t like your job, fix it. You might not earn enough, or maybe you work re­ally long hours. Ask for a pay rise or talk to your man­ager about un­re­al­is­tic ex­pec­ta­tions. The change might need to be more dras­tic than that; maybe you need to quit your job and find an­other – or go out on your own. Be brave and take your fu­ture into your own hands – be­cause no one else will do it.

FOR­GIVE

Ter­ri­ble things hap­pen to some peo­ple – it’s true. But what’s also true is the im­pact un­for­give­ness can have on the peo­ple the ter­ri­ble things hap­pened to.

For­give­ness doesn’t mean for­get­ting what hap­pened or pre­tend­ing it wasn’t as se­ri­ous as it was; it’s a choice that en­ables you to re­gain con­trol of your life, be­cause a bad ex­pe­ri­ence does not de­fine you – you do.

JOIN A GROUP OR FIND A HOBBY

Be­long­ing to a group of like­minded peo­ple not only fills your spare min­utes, it also con­nects you with peo­ple who love you just the way you are.

Churches, fit­ness clubs, new mums’ groups, book clubs … there are so many groups and or­gan­i­sa­tions out there ready to open their arms to one more per­son.

Not sure where to find a group that suits you? Ask your Neigh­bourly com­mu­nity.

PRI­ORI­TISE THE THINGS YOU LOVE

If you love how strolling along the beach or pump­ing iron makes you feel, com­mit to mak­ing more time in your life for them.

You might have to get up an hour ear­lier or sac­ri­fice an­other area of your life to squeeze in the things you love to do, but if you can’t do the things you love, what is the pur­pose of life, right?

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If you love spend­ing time on the beach, make more time in your life for it.

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