Writ­ing to well­ness

Matamata Chronicle - - News - By KA­T­RINA TANIRAU mata­mata.ed­i­tor@wrcn.co.nz

Turn­ing 50 was a mas­sive mile­stone for Mata­mata woman De­nalda An­der­son – in more ways than one.

For the first time in her life she was free, a feel­ing she hadn’t ex­pe­ri­enced since be­fore she could re­mem­ber.

Free of hurt and pain, and free of abuse in­flicted by peo­ple who were sup­posed to love her.

It was also around that time she was lov­ingly hugged for the first time.

Hug­ging was some­thing she had never heard of. The only form of phys­i­cal con­tact she had known was as­so­ci­ated with hurt­ing.

‘‘It might sound strange to some peo­ple but I re­ally didn’t know what a proper hug was,’’ she said.

De­nalda has used writ­ing as a form of ther­apy to deal with the years of suf­fer­ing, which started when she was child.

Her self- pub­lished book, 50 Steps On My Moun­tain: The Full Story, is the cul­mi­na­tion of that.

The book is the story of De­nalda’s life, in her own words.

Last year, she re­leased a smaller, pocket ver­sion of the book.

‘‘Once go­ing.

‘‘It’s been a re­ally help­ful way to deal with ev­ery­thing that has hap­pened to me,’’ she said.

Re­luc­tant at first to put her face and name to the book, af­ter talk­ing to fam­ily and friends she de­cided that she had noth­ing to hide.

‘‘I feel com­fort­able now be­cause I’ve fi­nally re­alised that it wasn’t

I started writ­ing I kept me who did any­thing wrong,’’ she said.

De­nalda has writ­ten the book in the hope it will help at least one woman who has ex­pe­ri­enced the same sort of pain and heartache she has in her life­time.

She hopes that even­tu­ally agen­cies like Women’s Refuge will pick it up and use it as a tool to help women in abu­sive re­la­tion­ships.

To buy a copy call De­nalda on 022 139 7650 to or­gan­ise postage and de­liv­ery.

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