Meet the Taupo lovers who turned the tra­di­tional en­gage­ment on its head.

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Meet the Taupo lovers who turned the tra­di­tional en­gage­ment on its head


TO HIM to pop the big ques­tion? And why does the en­gage­ment ring more com­monly go to the girl? In an age where – when it comes to cel­e­brat­ing love – any­thing goes (and rightly so), we caught up with a cool cou­ple who made their com­mit­ment to mar­riage af­ter a bit of in­no­cent in­ter­ro­ga­tion from their daugh­ter.

“We’d not long had our sec­ond child, Max, when our daugh­ter Charlie saw a pic­ture of our friend’s wed­ding day on the fridge,” ex­plains Marni Lynn, a school teacher from Taupo. “It spurred her to ask why peo­ple get mar­ried, which kind of got the con­ver­sa­tion go­ing. Af­ter Reuben and I ex­plained why peo­ple make the com­mit­ment to marry, Charlie said, ‘ Well, why aren’t you and daddy mar­ried then?’ I replied, ‘Daddy hasn’t asked me yet.’ Reuben looked at me and said, ‘ Well, it doesn’t have to be the man [who asks]’.” Marni thought about it for a few mo­ments be­fore drop­ping to one knee. “Will you marry me?” she asked. Reuben re­sponded, “Yes!”

The cou­ple had been to­gether for five years, and had two beau­ti­ful ba­bies to­gether. While they had talked about mar­riage it wasn’t al­ways at the top of their minds, or list of pri­or­i­ties.

“We’re cer­tainly not set on the tra­di­tional roles in our re­la­tion­ship,” ex­plains Marni. “I do a lot of the jobs around the house that you may ex­pect a man to do like mow­ing the lawn and do­ing the farm work, while Reuben – who is a chef – does all the cook­ing and iron­ing.”

She agrees there can be pres­sure on men to pro­pose, and with the tra­di­tion of parental ap­proval and pre­sent­ing a ring, things can get over­whelm­ing. “I felt like the de­ci­sion for me to pro­pose, while spo­radic, ac­tu­ally re­lieved a bit of pres­sure, be­cause for Reuben it may have been a nerve-wrack­ing ex­pe­ri­ence.”

Reuben says, “Ob­vi­ously I was sur­prised, and ec­static! It was def­i­nitely on my mind so I didn’t hes­i­tate to say ‘yes’. It gave me an­other level of re­spect for my fu­ture wife, that she didn’t need to fol­low tra­di­tion.”

Marni Lynn took the ini­tia­tive when it came to propos­ing to part­ner Reuben. Par­tridge Jewellers have aligned with this cou­ple’s story to launch their range of Men’s En­gage­ment Rings – avail­able now.

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