Par­ent­ing pack­ages for fam­i­lies

Piako Post - - YOUR LOCAL NEWS - ROSLYN NANCEKIVELL

No mat­ter which way you look at it, par­ent­ing is a tough job.

All chil­dren some­times be­have in ways that can test our pa­tience, but there are some chil­dren who can feel like they are more chal­leng­ing than oth­ers.

At Mor­rinsville Com­mu­nity House we don’t like to la­bel chil­dren as be­ing dif­fi­cult or naughty, we lov­ingly re­fer to them as ‘‘spir­ited’’.

Spir­ited chil­dren can present as be­ing more in­tense, sen­si­tive, per­cep­tive, per­sis­tent and en­er­getic than their peers.

While this can cre­ate chal­leng­ing par­ent­ing sit­u­a­tions, th­ese are not neg­a­tive traits.

Spir­ited chil­dren of­ten grow up to be cre­ative, artis­tic, good prob­lem solvers, fo­cussed, driven, hard-work­ing and high­ly­suc­cess­ful.

How­ever get­ting them to adult­hood can some­times feel like a long walk up a steep hill!

Mary Grant from The Par­ent­ing Place (www.the­p­ar­ent­ing­place.com) has some good ad­vice around how to pos­i­tively deal with chal­leng­ing be­hav­iours.

She sug­gests avoid­ing blam­ing and sham­ing your child’s bad be­hav­iour.

Blam­ing and sham­ing may make chil­dren feel bad but it will not nec­es­sar­ily help them to take re­spon­si­bil­ity for their ac­tions.

This sort of con­trol­ling be­hav­iour can give a child a sense of shame, em­bar­rass­ment, and poor self-es­teem.

Mary sug­gests a bet­ter way is to em­pathise with your child against the prob­lem – give them own­er­ship of the prob­lem and the tools to solve it, and do so in a way that leaves their dig­nity in­tact.

It is im­por­tant to sep­a­rate your child from their be­hav­iour.

If you can com­mu­ni­cate that you ap­prove of your chil­dren as peo­ple, even though you may dis­ap­prove of cer­tain be­hav­iours, then you are re­ally on the right track.

At Mor­rinsville Com­mu­nity House we have free in­for­ma­tion packs on par­ent­ing in­clud­ing spe­cific packs on ‘‘par­ent­ing spir­ited chil­dren’’.

Sim­ply pop in to re­cep­tion and ask for one.

If you would like more in-depth par­ent­ing sup­port we can pro­vide one-to-one par­ent­ing ses­sions.

We have some funded ses­sions avail­able to fam­i­lies who meet cer­tain gov­ern­ment-de­ter­mined cri­te­ria.

For a con­fi­den­tial chat please phone us on 889 5355 and ask for Julie, the Com­mu­nity House man­ager.

SUP­PLIED

Roslyn Nancekivell, Mor­rinsville Com­mu­nity House.

Newspapers in English

Newspapers from New Zealand

© PressReader. All rights reserved.