Terminally-ill bride gets her special day
A mother who lost two homes to the Christchurch and Kaikoura quakes has wed her long-term partner with the help of the community after being diagnosed with terminal bowel cancer.
Kiri Reynolds, 49, married Grant Collins, with her three children by her side this month. The community raised more than $25,000 for the ceremony, which was planned in just eight weeks.
In March Collins green-lighted a friend’s Facebook post, asking for help to organise the big day, which was still a secret to his soonto-be wife who was diagnosed with stage-four bowel and liver cancer.
The tumours, which she was receiving aggressive chemotherapy for, had gone untreated for nearly 10 years. They were not discovered until she was admitted to hospital with pains in her side.
Unfortunately it was ‘‘just a case of bad luck’’, she said. The diagnosis came after seven already devastating years for the family.
The couple’s home was redzoned and ‘‘written off’’ in the Christchurch earthquakes, which sparked a lengthy battle with their insurers. Their young son, Kiarn , developed asthma because of the residual dust, then Reynolds’ elderly parents died in quick succession.
The family moved to Kaikoura for a fresh start, rebuilt, and bought a small transport business in 2012. Shortly after, the business went into liquidation. The home was damaged in the November earthquake and after returning to Christchurch, they moved into a rental home, but were told they needed to leave as the owners’ son was moving in.
Collins moved to Brisbane, landed several job offers, and was in the process of setting up a new home for the family to join him in. A call from Reynolds with the news of the cancer put him straight on a flight home.
Close friend Tracey Gaskell said she was desperate to help, and posted in the Christchurch Brides and Grooms Facebook page asking for help make Reynolds’ ‘‘wishes come true’’. She was ‘‘swamped’’ with offers of support.
‘‘Everyone started saying, we’ll donate that, we’ll give that and it went from there really. So then I went round there and said, would you get married if we could do your wedding for nothing, and they said yes yes yes,’’ Gaskell said.
Reynolds said that without the community support, the Rangiora wedding ‘‘just would not have happened’’.
‘‘When I found out, we thought about having a bit of a backyard barbecue thing because we’ve always talked about getting married, but even that would have been expensive and even if we had that kind of money, I wouldn’t spend it on that. I want to do things with the kids, maybe take them on holiday and just spend time with them.’’
The community response had been ‘‘incredible’’, Collins said.
‘‘It really shows there are good people out there and they were willing to do anything for us. It was pretty overwhelming, Collins said.’’
When the idea was first thrown around ‘‘we thought it would just be nice tables with a tablecloth’’, Reynolds said.
‘‘But they had beautiful big flowers, a runner and bows on the chairs. All the details were there, no-one treated us as second rate,’’ she said.
The bridal party, including the couple’s children Kiarn, 10, Artisa, 8, and Reynolds’ daughter, Savannah, 20, were gifted outfits for the day and the dress was lent to her by a local bridal shop.
Reynolds said she hoped sharing her case would highlight bowel cancer as the ‘‘silent killer’’.
She said there was a lack of publicly-funded testing for the disease in a country with one of the highest incidences of bowel cancer in the world. More than 3000 people are diagnosed, and 1200 die from the disease each year.
It was shocking how she had gone from perfectly healthy to nearly bed-ridden in mere weeks, Reynolds said.
A Givealittle page has been set up to support the family.