I don’t know how I can raise these kids alone

Weekend Herald - - Front Page - Amy Wig­gins

The weeks af­ter the birth of Rayan Cosme’s third child should be some of the hap­pi­est times in his life but in­stead they are among the worst.

His wife Ar­lene Padawag- Cosme, 37, col­lapsed four days af­ter giv­ing birth to the beau­ti­ful baby girl and has been in an in­duced coma ever since.

The North Shore mother- of- three gave birth to her third daugh­ter, Grayan, on Novem­ber 20 and all was well when the fam­ily went home the next day. The fol­low­ing morn­ing Padawag- Cosme started com­plain­ing of a sore neck but the cou­ple thought noth­ing of it.

Two days later, on Novem­ber 24, Cosme got the news that would bring his world crash­ing down. He got a phone call at work say­ing his wife had col­lapsed and was be­ing taken to hos­pi­tal.

When Cosme ar­rived at hos­pi­tal he found his wife con­scious and talk­ing. Her mid­wife had per­formed CPR and called for help when she col­lapsed.

She com­plained of a se­vere pain in her head so she was taken for a CT scan — but she col­lapsed again.

Doc­tors rushed her in to surgery and con­firmed it was a brain aneurysm.

They put a drain in to re­move some of the fluid from her head.

They op­er­ated again the next day but the in­jury was so se­vere there was noth­ing much they could do. She has been se­dated ever since.

“She’s slowly de­te­ri­o­rat­ing. It’s only a mir­a­cle [ that will save her],” said Cosme through tears.

“I don’t know how I can raise these kids alone.”

Cosme said the chil­dren were the world to his wife, who worked as a nurse at North Shore Hos­pi­tal.

She was much- loved by her co­work­ers who came to visit her in hos­pi­tal ev­ery day, he said.

Cosme said he was amazed by the sup­port be­ing shown for him by the Filipino com­mu­nity, which had set up a Givealit­tle page for the fam­ily.

As of 5pm yes­ter­day, just over $ 4000 had been raised for the fam­ily.

“Thank you to all the peo­ple that have helped me with the tri­als. I’m still ask­ing for prayers that maybe they will give us the mir­a­cle for my wife,” he said.

“That’s all I want. Maybe the prayers can make a heal­ing.”

All the funds do­nated on Givealit­tle would go to­wards cov­er­ing the costs Ar­lene’s fam­ily is fac­ing while she is in hos­pi­tal and any­thing left would go to her three chil­dren — 10- year- old Gracee, 5- year- old Ayene and baby Grayan.

Ar­lene Padawag- Cosme, left, is now in a coma, leav­ing hus­band Rayan Cosme, right, alone to raise their daugh­ters Gracee, 10 ( cen­tre), Ayene, 5 ( bot­tom) and Grayan Claire ( be­low).

Grayan Claire Cosme was born on Novem­ber 20. Four days later her mother suf­fered a brain aneurysm.

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