Re­li­gion as ex­cuse

Daily Trust - - OPINION - Yushau Ta­siu yushau­ta­siu@

Re­li­giously, ev­ery faith­ful Mus­lim be­lieved that Is­lam had pro­vides that op­por­tu­nity to ev­ery man marry the max­i­mum num­ber of 4 wives as long as he can take care of them base on Is­lamic in­jec­tion. But the philoso­phies of most of our peo­ple in Hausa com­mu­ni­ties have gone beyond the re­li­gious in­junc­tion.

Peo­ple marry while they have no means of pro­vid­ing for the fam­ily with the ba­sic need and blam­ing Al­lah for what­ever hap­pened. I am not say­ing peo­ple in Hausa com­mu­nity should not marry un­til they are fi­nan­cially okay, no. It is only in this com­mu­nity you will see a man at the age of 28,30, to 34 hav­ing three wives but have no ac­com­mo­da­tion of his own and his busi­ness can­not sus­tain his fam­ily sta­tus. If you ask they will tell you “Ev­ery mouth that God made has his food pro­vided by God”.

This ac­tion in most cases lead some fam­i­lies to a sit­u­a­tion where by chil­dren are on their own re­sist­ing the con­trol or di­rec­tives of the par­ents. Some even en­gage in so­cial vices like drug abuse, pros­ti­tu­tion, steal­ing, armed rob­bery etc. Be­cause par­ents failed to make them­selves re­spon­si­ble par­ents.

There is this story of a man who vis­ited his rel­a­tive and found out that the house his rel­a­tive lives has no fence and no longer feed 3 square meals, he then gave the man N80,000 to make use of it in mak­ing busi­ness and to do some­thing that will make his house good. After he left what the man did was to marry an­other woman.

We must look back and try by all means do what is good to us but is not con­trary to our re­li­gions or beyond our so­cioe­co­nomic sta­tus. No re­li­gion asked to do such with­out con­sid­er­ing what will be right or wrong. Happy fam­ily is what Al­lah S.W.A wants for his peo­ple. Man is the en­gi­neer of his prob­lem not Al­lah. Al­lah made ev­ery­thing eas­ier to mankind.

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