Man­ag­ing Size Of Fam­i­lies In Times Of Re­ces­sion

Over the years, man has joy­fully obeyed the man­date to pro­cre­ate and pop­u­late Earth, his dwelling place. As world pop­u­la­tion grew, how­ever, the need arose to man­age it, so that the earth’s re­sources could go round its nu­mer­ous in­hab­i­tants. Presently, many

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(His Grace, Most Revd. Em­manuel Josiah Ud­ofia, Pri­ma­te­oftheafricanchurch)

VEN though one may not find a di­rect scrip­tural ref­er­ence to it in the Bible, but some­body has to pro­duce the num­ber of chil­dren he is able to feed, train and care for. For in­stance, it is a se­ri­ous prob­lem for some­one who doesn’t have any­thing do­ing, but per­haps has five or seven chil­dren to cater for. In such a case, God’s bless­ing has now be­come a chal­lenge, and the man will not en­joy that home. Be­fore you know it, the chil­dren start to mis­be­have, be­cause they have to look for some­thing to eat. The next thing is that the man has given them out as house­maids and house­boys, thereby deny­ing the chil­dren proper ed­u­ca­tion they are en­ti­tled to ac­cord­ing to Bi­b­li­cal in­junc­tion.

By ap­ply­ing sound wis­dom, the in­di­vid­ual should be able to know the num­ber of chil­dren he can cater for. The Bible says we should seek wis­dom be­cause it is the prin­ci­pal thing. When a man or wo­man is guided by the wis­dom of God, he/she will be able to take de­ci­sion on his/her own, es­pe­cially on what to do to bet­ter his life and that of his fam­ily.

Even if other peo­ple are do­ing things in a par­tic­u­lar way, but with God’s wis­dom, you would take de­ci­sions that will be of great ben­e­fit to you and the so­ci­ety. It is true that chil­dren are God’s gift, but at the same time, we should en­sure we don’t misuse that gift. And though I am not in sup­port of fam­ily plan­ning, but I be­lieve if a man and wo­man agree that they don’t need more chil­dren, God can help them stop it.

For in­stance, my wife and I never went for any fam­ily plan­ning. We just prayed to God and He an­swered us. Same God can still do it for those who would seek His face in faith.

For ex­am­ple, I know of a wo­man who went for fam­ily plan­ning, but after eight years, the wo­man got preg­nant again. So, fam­ily plan­ning is no guar­an­tee that you won’t have chil­dren again. Re­mem­ber, fam­ily plan­ning is man-made and it has other chal­lenges. I be­lieve there is also a di­vine plan­ning that comes from God and it is usu­ally per­fect. Prayer alone worked for us and some other peo­ple have also con­fessed God’s faith­ful­ness in that re­gard. I have six chil­dren and we be­seeched God that we didn’t want to have more chil­dren. He hon­oured our prayer and it has never stopped us from meet­ing each other. There are so many ben­e­fits that come from God as a re­sult of our be­lief in Him. This is one of them, apart from our heal­ing, de­liv­er­ance from sin and so on.

ETOme, it is not scrip­tural to say you should have one, two, three, four, five or six chil­dren, but wis­dom is prof­itable for all things. There­fore, wis­dom de­mands that the chil­dren you will not be able to take care of, you don’t bring them into the world. The Bible says a man that can­not pro­vide for his house­hold is an in­fi­del. So, in or­der to avoid be­ing an in­fi­del, then in­di­vid­u­als should give birth to the num­ber of chil­dren they can af­ford to take care of, and you will be ful­fill­ing the scrip­tures. You see, what is un­scrip­tural will never pass for be­ing scrip­tural. God didn’t say that this is the num­ber of chil­dren you should have, and same Bible is say­ing that a man who can­not pro­vide for his house­hold is an in­fi­del, and if you don’t want to be an in­fi­del then bring the ones you can pro­vide for. That is wis­dom and the prin­ci­pal thing for us to do. (An­thony Olubunmi Car­di­nal Oko­gie, Arch­bish­ope­mer­i­tu­sofla­gos)

Y an­swer to that ques­tion is no, be­cause chil­dren are gifts from God. There are mar­ried cou­ples, who have none and there are oth­ers who have more than they can cater for. Even though peo­ple are ad­vo­cat­ing the num­ber that you have to bring to the world, so that you will be able to cater for them, but my ques­tion to them is: What of those that are be­ing killed in the process of com­mit­ting dif­fer­ent kinds of abor­tion? You should ac­cept what God has given to you and He also knows why He is send­ing that child into the world. Look at all the atroc­i­ties that are go­ing in Nige­ria to­day, and no­body knows the cause. Even those of you who are say­ing that peo­ple should cut down the num­ber of their chil­dren do not know the cause be­cause we are not God. You peo­ple just leave the ma­jor as­pect of the prob­lem you should be dis­cussing and you are fo­cus­ing on trim­ming down the num­ber of chil­dren Chris­tians should have, as if that is the main is­sue. You think you can con­trol the num­ber of chil­dren that are com­ing into this world? That is wrong. No­body knows how he or she came into this world, even our moth­ers didn’t know when con­cep­tion started and now you want to kill what you did not cre­ate. Some are even say­ing we are too many in the coun­try, there­fore, we should re­duce our pop­u­la­tion. But are you God? Be­cause things are bad in the coun­try, there­fore, it means we should re­duce the num­ber of chil­dren Chris­tians should have. That is not the is­sue. Look at the rate of kid­nap­ping and killing go­ing on right now. We should turn to God and ask Him to cleanse us be­cause killing is never our cul­ture, but peo­ple are do­ing it to­day with im­punity. It’s un­for­tu­nate.

M( Pas­tor Sun­day Ade­laja, Se­nior­pas­tor,theem­bassy­of­god,ukraine)

Oreg­u­late the num­ber of chil­dren is not a ques­tion of scrip­tures or Bible. This is not a God ques­tion, but a man ques­tion. Even though I am a pas­tor, I would say that one of the evils in our so­ci­ety is re­li­gion, which has messed up the peo­ple’s mind­set, so much

Tthat when we talk about reg­u­lat­ing the amount of chil­dren or fam­ily plan­ning, a typ­i­cal Nige­rian would say, ‘Well, there is noth­ing I can do about it be­cause God sends the chil­dren.’

That con­cept is not only ir­ra­tional, but it is also un­true, as it is based on lies and self-de­cep­tion. It is un­true be­cause, like I have said ear­lier, it is not a God ques­tion, but man’s ques­tion. It should be a hu­man ques­tion that is de­cided be­tween hus­band and wife. To say that God sends chil­dren is to lie about God. Yes, God sends chil­dren, but He does not send them with­out our par­tic­i­pa­tion. If a hus­band and wife would not sleep to­gether, God would not all of a sud­den send them chil­dren from nowhere. It is very sim­ple to com­mit your­self to fam­ily con­trol; just stay away from your wo­man. If you don’t sleep with that wo­man, she won’t get preg­nant. It is a de­ci­sion for the hus­band and wife to ab­stain or come to­gether. It is equally their de­ci­sion to con­trol how many chil­dren they want, or to just keep get­ting chil­dren. It is an act of ir­re­spon­si­bil­ity to blame God for your in­abil­ity to con­trol your­self. So, I would say we need more ed­u­ca­tion in that area. The coun­try needs to start a cru­sade and a cam­paign to let par­ents know their re­spon­si­bil­ity to­wards the chil­dren they are bring­ing to the world. If they don’t have the money to raise them, then they should not bring them to the world to come and suf­fer. There­fore, it is a ques­tion of ed­u­ca­tion and en­light­en­ment, and not a ques­tion of God. ( Hisem­i­nencedr.samuelchuk­wue­meka Kanu­uche,prelate,methodistchurch­nige­ria(mcn)

HAT I would ad­vice par­ents to do is to have the num­ber of chil­dren they can take care of; the num­ber of chil­dren they can con­ve­niently main­tain, when they are sick, chil­dren they can ed­u­cate, and so on. Hav­ing so many chil­dren even en­dan­gers the mother’s health. So, there is need to state here that spac­ing of chil­dren is nec­es­sary.

For in­stance, if you have four or five chil­dren, then that is okay. I have seen many Nige­ri­ans, es­pe­cially the ed­u­cated ones hav­ing two chil­dren, which I think is good be­cause you don’t have to pro­duce chil­dren, who will later be­come beg­gars on the streets. Hav­ing chil­dren you can­not ad­e­quately cater for is dan­ger­ous to our so­ci­ety and that is why we have so much inse­cu­rity in this coun­try. Whether one is a Chris­tian or not, one should be wise in pro­duc­ing chil­dren. The Bible says we should go and in­crease and mul­ti­ply, but it doesn’t mean that one should be sense­less about it. One should use his senses in pro­duc­ing chil­dren.

Fam­ily plan­ning has to do with the num­ber of chil­dren one should have. For in­stance, those who stud­ied Bi­ol­ogy will agree with me that there is a kind of fam­ily plan­ning you will ap­ply with­out in­sert­ing any­thing in the wo­man or man, but you use the wo­man’s ovu­la­tion pe­riod to cal­cu­late. And if you are able to do that ef­fec­tively, it will give you the num­ber of chil­dren you want. There is no church that doesn’t have doc­tors, nurses, mid­wives and phar­ma­cists and so on. Th­ese pro­fes­sion­als are there to teach us fam­ily plan­ning. So, ev­ery church ap­plies fam­ily plan­ning.

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Adeyemi

Ud­ofia

Oko­gie

Ade­laja

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