Let’s Play With Our Wives

The Guardian (Nigeria) - - IBRU CENTRE - The Love Arena With Bishop Charles Ighele

“LET’S play with our wives” was the ti­tle I gave to an out­ing with some cou­ples some­time ago . It was a one-day recre­ational af­fair for the cou­ples al­most all of whom are pro­fes­sion­als, busi­ness­men and women. We left La­gos early that Satur­day morn­ing to a re­sort by the great ex­panse of wa­ter in one of the nu­mer­ous la­goons in La­gos. There, we danced with our wives. We ate and we drank co­conut wa­ter. We went on boat rides on the great wa­ters. Some went on other rides. At about four o’clock, we started the jour­ney back to La­gos after hours of fun. We had a ses­sion of dis­cus­sion on how to make our mar­riages bet­ter.

About two weeks ago, I was out again, this time at a pri­vate re­sort on a beach by the At­lantic Ocean. I was there with my wife, my daugh­ter and her hus­band with their four lit­tle chil­dren, my chil­dren (mi­nus one) and in fact the en­tire house­hold with five visi­tors. Very soon, I will leave my home in the morn­ing with only my wife to a re­sort, where we will spend the whole day and re­turn home in the evening. We shall hold hands, while strolling. We shall hold each other waist-to-waist, while strolling. We will chat. We will laugh. We will kiss. We will fall on the sand like a newly-wed. We thoroughly en­joy our­selves dur­ing th­ese pe­ri­odic out­ings as a fam­ily or as a cou­ple. This is aside the weekly dates with my wife, when we like tak­ing a meal once a week out­side our home. I cre­ate time for this de­spite my busy sched­ule. I am a very busy man, but I have al­ways been de­ter­mined to en­sure that I cre­ate time to play with th­ese two cat­e­gories of peo­ple: First, my wife and se­cond, other mem­bers of my house­hold. All work, no play makes Efezino a dull boy. Some­one may ar­gue, how can one take his wife out, when he can barely take two meals a day? I have been mar­ried to my wife for over 30 years and there was a time early in our mar­riage that I did not have the means to take her out. But I never al­lowed lack of money to stop me from pro­vid­ing fun for my wife. In those years, both of us would take mo­tor­cy­cles used for trans­port ( Okada) to a ho­tel with a swim­ming pool and other fa­cil­i­ties. We would buy the cheap­est bot­tle of soft drinks and ask for two tum­blers to share the con­tent. We drank, chat­ted, took a walk and then took an­other ride back home, be­cause we had no car. I strongly be­lieve it is the duty of the man, the hus­band, the head, and leader of the home to delib- er­ately cre­ate fun for his wife and house­hold. It is one of the ba­sic du­ties of a man. So, I be­lieve. Thank God for the food we pro­vide for the fam­ily as hus­bands and other great things we do. But there is an area where the aver­age African man has not done so well, as far as civilised be­hav­iour is con­cerned. It is in the area of pro­vid­ing fun for our wives and chil­dren.

John chap­ter18:1-2 men­tions a re­sort by the name “Brook Ce­dron, where was a gar­den” where “Je­sus of­ten RE­SORTED with his dis­ci­ples.” I am of the view that Je­sus did not only go to that re­sort to pray. He also went there to re­lax with His dis­ci­ples. Let us learn to take our wives out. If you do not learn to play with your wife now, you will be like strangers to each other at old age.

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