Is There Any Easy Way To Overcome This?

THIS is my first time of posting and I hope I will get help. I just want to share my story and ask for advice.

Recently, my girlfriend of three years broke up with me, saying she had interest in someone else. I fell apart. I never saw it coming. We were going to hang out together that night, but when I came to the car I saw tears on her face. I felt my heart ‘ tightened’ as I knew what was coming. She simply told me we could no longer be together.

From that day, I haven’t been able to eat or sleep properly. I would sleep at 3.00 am and wake up at 7.00 am, alone and with endless time to pass. I simply lost interest in everything I used to love. I tried to come to her, clinging with hope that we could start anew. I mean, that’s what couples do in the movies.

But reality is cruel, she told me she was interested in someone else. That night, I knew she was going to the other guy’s place. I knew it was none of my business, but I lost control. I confronted her about it, she said no. I found out later she lied to me.

Yesterday, overwhelmed with sadness, I went to sleep at 7.00 pm and woke up at 8.00 pm. I wanted to be alone since I have lost interest in talking to other people. But last night, I knew I needed help. So I asked for help, I called my dad, and we talked for a while. He told me: “If it doesn’t hurt you now, you probably did not love her enough”. If that was true, does that mean the fact that she is already making moves right now everything we had is nothing to her now? What am I supposed to do when I haven’t even dealt with the fact that she is not mine anymore to knowing that she is in love with someone else?

I started seeking help from my friends, and I received overwhelming comfort that I never thought could be possible. I had relied on her for the longest time, that I did not know any person to rely on when things fell apart. If anyone is on that dark place, please seek for help.

Your family, and your friends are there for you. You do not have to do this alone. I have come to realise that.

I realised from all my talks that she probably never loved me as much as I loved her. I needed to move on. I was still clinging to the hope that maybe time will pass, and I would be together with her again. But I realized that if she gave up on us once, she could do it again. And I probably would be better off finding someone that would not give up on us. That being said, it still hurts me whenever I think about the love we had, and the fact that she will probably soon move on with someone else. It haunts my mind. Do you guys have any suggestions on how to overcome this?

Thanks for reading my story. I wish only the best for anyone who is also on this journey of re- finding oneself.

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