CAPSULES BY FUNKE BABS-KUFEJI
My mind is weighed down by a train of thoughts that I need to unburden, please indulge me for a minute...
Pray, do tell .... why do we put pressure on people to get the M.R.S certificate? Does the inability of many to attain this reduce them?
What are the benefits derivable from attending the institution of marriage that makes even the logical amongst us “shrink in reason”? I beg, I beg, I beg, we cannot continue to do this to one another. We just can’t! What I find particularly annoying is how people are made to feel like they have failed at life because they are single. What’s up with that people?
The worst hit are women and the “biological clock syndrome”, we get cornered into the myopia of “single is sad” and we are daily forced to kiss frogs in the name of matrimony.
This much coveted institution can be beautiful if you are lucky enough to find “Mr Right for you” as many “Mr Foolish feeling funky” are lurking in the shadows, oblige them at your own peril because you will live your personal hell on earth.
If you are not a complete person, how can you expect to complete anyone, and you inadvertently become a liability rather than an asset. What you are bringing to the table must complement not repel. How many are truly ready?
You get it wrong when you allow societal expectations to dictate your pace as you will crash and burn ...
It is inimical to your trajectory when you go into a “by force I must marry default mode”, it clouds judgement.
When pain comes at you because you’re sleeping with the enemy, there will be no one to “rough” it with you at that point, so shine your heart or you will haemorrhage. Do YOU and mute contrary counsel. The single state is not a diseased state, nor a position deserving of pity, on the contrary it is a time of discovery, a time to blossom because it is unencumbered.
Many women over 30 years are usually stressed out because we just won’t let them be, they attend weddings of friends petrified because one Aunty or the other will sweetly bleat “ti’e na a de o” meaning your turn will come with a pitiful expression ......... whilst they probably mean well, it is unnecessary pressure.
When a woman finds her “fit” no one will need to preach her into the union, same goes for the man.
Enough already !!!!!! let people live their lives in their expressions I beg, quit bogging them with gloom and doom.
How does marriage calculate your distance to heaven, why have we turned it into a religion, can’t we see that it is fast producing many casualties because of the bigotry, we are stabbing souls with our words and leaving them with festering wounds.
Many day dream about the walk down the aisle but the life after, is a blur. The wedding ceremony is just a prelude to life within marriage, the journey through is not for the faint hearted.
Do not misunderstand me, if you find a good person, who is into you, oh, bliss on wheels, but If you don’t... blow the institution a kiss and give it a miss. .
I dare say because people are put under so much pressure they settle for just anybody and end up in relationships that they have no business being in and voila, Cyprus is sinking.
Putting a ring on it might be good in principle until you find the ring tightening around your neck with the grave in sight, that is if “yaba left” does not come for you first.
Don’t allow anyone railroad you into marriage or you’ll end up in the furnace burning without recourse.
I beg make una no vex o, I just dey talk my own o .... didn’t mean to ruffle your well arranged feathers, but please do yourself a favour, ponder before you jump.