Omolola Itayemi

When I’m at Work, I’m not Mrs. Ajayi, He’s Not My Husband

Over the years, you have been working with your husband, Dr. Abayomi Ajayi, how has it been?

Well, I think I will call it great. Though it was a bit tough, I never thought I could work with him. He just came home one day and said …you are coming to Nordica. I was trained as a nurse. I was working at a neurology clinic. One thing I decided since the day I joined him almost 11 years ago was that when I’m at work I’m not Mrs. Ajayi, we will relate like I work for him. But the moment we get into the car I become Mrs. Ajayi. When he calls me at work I answer ‘Yes Sir’, that is the only way we can function because if you allow emotion to come in, you won’t be able to function. So, I don’t put emotions to it at all when I’m at work, he’s not my husband at all.

Any challenges working here?

Sometimes, I have contrary opinion to his and because I cannot confront him, I just keep quiet. Maybe we now talk about it later. Sometimes, if I feel strongly against what he says, I do send him a text or whatsapp message of ‘No, No, I don’t think this would fly.’ We may be in the same meeting. I just quickly send a message about my opinion about it because I will not want to oppose whatever he’s saying. That sometimes is a challenge. If I’m right, I will not let him rest until he listens to me and he knows. I will not let him rest. I will keep bothering him until he listens tens to me.

You u are a sex therapist, tell us what it entails? tails?

I do o fertility counseling, I do sex and relationship onship counseling. They are all interwoven. woven. That’s why I had to go for training ng so that I will know what to do talking king to our clients. We have issues about sex among people who are fertility rtility challenged. Sometimes, they don’t even have sex again. Sometimes, times, it has become like once in six months, sometimes two times, mes, some couple maybe e only during ovulation and other ther clients it’s a no- why hy are we doing it? Sometimes, metimes, you see the men en coming to the clinic inic unable to produce uce semen maybe there’s s no erection. The man would come in to confide in me, , ‘madam I don’t have erectile problem em o, I can perform rm outside. It’s only nly with the woman’. an’. Sometimes, they don’t find each ach other attractive tive again, so there’s ere’s no sex. Meanwhile, while, the man says he’s fine outside. de. Looking