Do not play the victim again --Kris
JAMES YAP, IBINILAD
MAHABA ang FB post st ni Kris Aquino tungkol sa interview ni James Yap sa opening ng ng bar na negosyo nito na sabiabi ng Queen of All Media, a, ginamit ni James si Bimby para i- promote ang bar. Sinabihan ni Kris si James s na tigilang banggitin sa a mga interview niya si i Bimby para sa publicity.
“There comes a pointnt when being QUIET just st doesn’t cut it anymore. I trieded my best best to be PROPERPER to maintain dignified silence nce for the sake of PEACE- but when the other party is again playing the sympathy card, the mother in me just has to say ENOUGH IS ENOUGH.
“James Yap -- stop using Bimb for publicity, most especially when you are opening a BAR! That is the wrong venue to be discussing your relationship (or in this case lack of one) with your son. The proper thing to do would have been to answer, “THIS ISNT’T THE CORRECT VENUE TO DISCUSS MY RELATIONSHIP WITH MY SON AND I WOULD APPRECIATE IF YOU COULD RESPECT OUR PRIVACY.”
“I have so many presscons and launches over the years and in the past few months -- but it seems there is so much more going on in my life that the subject of James Yap has rarely come up; and for the sake of Bimb’s well-being I made the conscious effort to put the past behind.
“The simple truth is this and I am addressing this directly to the man who doesn’t want to give our 10 year old son PEACE:
“YOU HAVEN’T EXERTED EFFORT TO GET TO KNOW HIM, SPEND TIME WITH HIM, MUCH LESS CONSISTENTLY CONTRIBUTE FINANCIALLY TO HIS NEEDS (the last time you “shared” for tuition was when Bimb was in 2nd grade -- 3 full years ago, I have let that be since God has more than adequately been generous with us and I believe that a father’s financial responsibility should naturally come from his heart). I maintained communication lines with Mic because she tried to get to know both Bimb and Kuya Josh, and had simple, yet genuinely thoughtful gestures for them. Can you honestly say that you tried to become closer to Bimb?
“Hindi kita ginugulo. Binigyan ko ng respeto ang bago mong partner na si Mic -- napakahirap bang bigyan mo rin ng respeto ang anak natin at huwag mo na siyang gamitin para mapag-usapan ang bago mong negosyo? Naiintindihan ko na hindi maiiwasan na matanong ka tungkol kay Bimb, pero hindi mahirap ang tumangging sumagot alang-alang na lang sa kapakanan ng bata.
“Parenting“Pa r e isn’t a competition,competiti it should be cooperationcooperatio -- even if we are already longlo annulled as a couple. I w was far from being a perfect wife,w but I know I am a loving,lo responsible, involved,involv and devoted mother.moth DO NOT PLAY THE VICTIM AGAIN -- becausebe a man who walkedwa away with millionsmi from an annulmentann settlement fromfro a marriage that lastedlas just 4 years can never be a victim especiallyespecia when he is portrayingportrayin a 10 year old boy as the oneo at ‘fault’ in not liking himhi and making him feel na ‘ magsasawa ka at masasaktan ka lang.’
“Money isn’t the issue with me -- but voluntarily contributing to your son’s needs regardless of how successful his mother is would show him that you are a stand up guy regardless if it is P1,000 or P5,000 a month. Whether we like it or not, fathers are still expected to be providers. And it doesn’t put you in the most responsible light when your social media feed shows you attending art exhibits and showcasing your extensive art collection and having the capital to invest in a big restaurant-bar, yet since you did bring it up -- the New Year’s Eve that Bimb was in your care and had to be rushed to the hospital -- was there even an offer to help pay for any of his medication? I am merely being factual -- and in this instance TRUTH HURTS.
“I have said what was needed to be said. And I shall say nothing further because frankly, MASAYA ANG TAHIMIK NA BUHAY -- pero napakatanga ko na kung hahayaan ko na naman na magpaapak kami sa mga walang katotohanang paninira na pag susuriing maigi, eh, napakaklarong paghuhugas- kamay lamang sa mga personal na pagkukulang...
“Kuya Josh, Bimb, and I are LOVING and content. We have made the best of what life has given us, and I strongly believe they will remain secure and happy for as long as their mother is steadfast in her faith in God, hardworking as their provider, and nurturing as the protector of their lives.
“I have done my utmost to leave yesterday behind. I have forgiven you, and more importantly I have forgiven myself. My only prayer now is that we all live in harmony and mutual respect by giving each other mutual peace. Sobrang simple -- huwag mo kaming pag-usapan at guluhin, mananatili akong tahimik. Dahil ang pinakapinahahalagahan ko higit sa sarili ko ay ang mapalaki nang maayos, matalino, magalang, at mapagmahal ang anak natin.”
Sinagot ni James ang nabanggit ni Kris na hindi ito nag-contribute sa tuition ni Bimby: “Kung ikaw ang nagbabayad ng tuition tapos biglang nilipat ng school ng hindi mo alam, matutuwa ka ba?”
Sa mga nagsabi na dapat nag- effort siya to be close to Bimby, sagot ni James, “Salamat sa advice. Effort? Ginawa ko na lahat yan.”
May pahabol si Kris, sinagot ang comment at nag- advise sa kanya to keep silent at marami ang nagsi-sympathize sa kanya.
“I shall shut up when he learns to shut up about Bimb” at “Did I start this? Did I give the interview? I am just protecting my son. There would have been no need for me to air my side had he just not used Bimb.”