Tips for men on women’s day

Today is International Women’s Day, and even if I already dedicated a whole column last week to write about Women’s month, there are still many things to say about the topic, especially today, the actual day of remembrance and celebration.

Many of us have a good idea on how to celebrate this day—by sending greetings and/or gifts to the women in our lives, supporting women-owned businesses and endeavors, learning more about female historical figures, gathering the family to watch films about strong women, etc. —but there are more ideas floating around on the Internet.

I would like to focus on something I read recently about how the engagement of men in gender inclusion programs leads to progress in organizations, according to research. This is important especially for organizations working on diversity and inclusion efforts. Know that you must deliberately include the men in your programs so it has a better chance to succeed, and by inclusion I don’t mean simply inviting them to attend the events for women. Inclusion also means building alliances.

Essentially, what follows are a couple of tips for men on women’s day, based on a study that I recently came across on the Internet. Earnest listening is crucial, the study says, because it is tantamount to trust and respect for the women and their issues. When women talk about their experiences, in whatever format—conferences, informal gatherings, personal setting, etc.—the men can show that they value her honesty and her experience by lending an ear.

It is also wise to not try and solve the women’s problems by speaking for them or telling them how to approach their concerns. It would help to remain humble and ask the women what they need in terms of support or how you can help amplify their message. For example, men can share their social capital (influence, information, knowledge, organizational resources, etc.) with women if this is what they need. In other words, do not assume anything.

It is not always easy to act as an ally of women, if you are a man. New research shows that in some organizations, men who advocate for women may be perceived as less competent and less masculine. Others face criticism from the feminists themselves. And yet some men really just don’t get it; and this lack of understanding sometimes undermines or ruins the women’s initiatives and progress.

Sometimes, talking about or listening to women’s issues may put some of the men in an uncomfortable position. But the males must understand that the path forward involves overcoming these feelings and making a commitment to listen and interact, and eventually, to advocate for gender equity through solid action.

To all the women, Happy Women’s Day!