What if he wants to come back?

Separated mons and single moms, this one's for you

You are not wrong.

This article is inspired in huge part by the reuniting of an iconic celebrity love team, for a fast food restaurant that we shall not name. And yes, we probably have different opinions about their love that could’ve been, the loves they currently have, and the other loves that got away.

But speaking of “the one that got away,” do you wonder, sometimes, if there’s a certain relationship you need to review? And maybe even consider letting back into your life? Does Your Ex Deserve A Second Chance?

Generally speaking, everyone deserves a second chance. Human as we are, we’re bound to make mistakes, act on stupid decisions, and do things we later regret. Which is why we all deserve the chance to start over and make things right.

And in no other area of human experience do we need more of these second chances than in the area of love.

Now, we don’t know your Ex, and we don’t know your story, and we don’t you. But when it comes to relationships, especially long term, serious ones that you thought would last forever, we know there were specific reasons why you chose him.

And sometimes it’s those reasons that make you wonder: What if it’s not about me giving him a second chance? What if it’s really about me giving myself another shot at forever? THREE SIGNS THAT MAYBE YOU CAN GIVE YOUR EX A SECOND CHANCE:

Sign #1. Your ex is available and willing to start over with you.

“Availability” needs to be the most basic requirement. After all getting a “fresh start” cannot happen when there is unfinished business, or a lingering third party on the side.

On top of availability, there is also this question: Is your ex trying to get back together with you? Or is he simply enjoying a moment of reconnection with someone who loved him, had history with him, and knew him during a more exciting time, when he had more hair and actual abs?

Moreover, what are his real reasons for reconnecting? Is he really interested in what’s happening with you? Or is he just checking if he could interest you in a new condo? rious part. Because yes, your ex makes you feel the way you did then: When life was just about to unfold, the world was full of possibilities, and you had so many dreams to look forward to. Together.

But remember: You ended the relationship for a reason. And that reason was important enough for you to have decided not to come back to him all this time.

Ask yourself: Is that reason still important to you? If it is, then you need to see evidence of your ex having changed his view about it, and made it an important part of his current life decisions.

Or, maybe you realize now that what used to be such a big deal for you is now just a minor thing you can ignore. If that’s the case, maybe it means you have also grown, and are now more ready to accept your ex for the person he’s always been.

Sign #3. You know you have learned the lessons of your own past mistakes.

All relationships are spiritual growth opportunities, and the history you had with your ex contributed to who you are now. But how well do you really know the person you have become?

Before you even think about giving someone else a second chance to be part of your life, here are five things you need to clarify with yourself first:

A. What’s different between the person you are and the person you used to be? How do you feel about these differences?

B. Do you now have a clearer idea about the kind of relationship you need, and not just want?

C. Are you now ready to make commitments to yourself and someone else and follow through them on them?

D. Can you peacefully say that your life choices now have nothing to do with “what I need to prove,” and instead have everything to do with “becoming a better version of who I really am?”

E. Do you now have improved relationship skills, particularly in the areas of “communication” and “conflict resolution?”

This exercise in self assessment might seem daunting. But here’s the thing: If you’re really thinking about giving an old relationship a new chance for working out, then wouldn’t it be better if you gave it the best fighting chance at

Is your ex trying to get back together with you? Or is he simply enjoying a moment of reconnection with someone who loved him, had history with him, and knew him during a more exciting time, when he had more hair and actual abs?

something that lasts?

The feeling of loving someone never really goes away. It often just gets covered up by layers of hurt, anger, and resentment. But when enough time has passed and you find yourself in a stage where all the things that caused the hurt, anger, and resentment no longer matter so much, then it may be time to start a new chapter in your love story, not with someone new, but with someone who has come back to you.