Can we trust someone using just our phones?
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A few decades ago, not being able to answer your phone meant probably not hearing it ringing or having low battery. Nowadays, not getting back to someone means you probably ignored that person on purpose.
Before smartphones
But it wasn’t always like this. Two decades ago, back in the ancient times that is 1999, mobile phones were reserved for either the businessman, the ultra- rich, or the ultra-geek. While it has started to be more of a common sight thanks to the then-industry leader Nokia (right??), it was still mostly seen as a luxury rather than a necessity.
“Back then, communicating remotely was still an abstract concept, something that seems like we don’t really need,” said Karel Holub, chief Argonaut of Argomall, a Filipino online retailer platform that sells over 500 authentic and genuine phones from dozens of brands. “So even though the mobile phone is actually a momentous invention, it didn’t affect how we went about with our daily lives, at least not yet at the time.”
Dating back then, consequently, was still done by way of the good, old “I’ll pick you up at 7:00 p.m. and let’s go to the movies”. There were no Facetime, WhatsApp, or FB Messenger to replace our conversations. We actually needed to plan ahead and just had to talk to our partner the entire time. Imagine that.
Going digital
The advent of the new millennium, however, saw a momentous shift. In just a few, short years, the mobile phone graduated from a “nice- to- have” to “can’t- livewithout.” The way we used mobile phones started changing as well as the texting craze took over. We courted through text, we got into relationships through text, and we even broke up through text (calls were still expensive at the time.)
While mobile phones are plenty useful already in and of itself, the truly seismic change came when it evolved into what we now call
more features, it transformed the smartphone into a full- fledged communication tool.
“After a seemingly slow start, the way smartphones changed our lives was nothing short of incredible. It literally changed how humans acted in just a few short years,” said Holub, who also has more than 20 years of professional experience in the mobile phone industry.
This seismic shift allowed us to be more in touch with our loved ones. Now, we can talk to our family members abroad whenever we want, work remotely, and of course, be much closer to our partner than ever before through video calls. It’s like we’re always with them, right?
Well, not quite. See, along with the countless innovations came the new cultural problems. Digital communication allowed people to skip the face-to-face meetings, which meant that certain nuances of human communication such as the slightest change in facial expressions are a lot harder to see and feel, which made trust and authenticity a huge issue. How can you trust someone you’re talking to if you’re not physically with them?
Smartphone ‘rules’
It starts off with realizing that digital messaging and chatting cannot replace actual, physical communication. While we can meet people through Tinder, Grindr and other apps, we cannot sustain relationships without ever actually being with your partner. Digital communication is a tool to augment our communication efforts, not the main platform.
If we have managed to build trust with our partners in the physical world, then we would
- lines in the digital world as well. Does your girlfriend like using lots of emojis or is she more of a full sentence than a period type of girl? Does she like video calls or just voice calls? Every relationship is different, so talk it out with your partner and agree on your “smartphone rules”.
Also, make sure that the smartphones you’re both using are authentic and reliable. The last thing you need is your knock-off phone dying on you during a call. Only buy authentic phones in trusted online retailers like argomall.com, which offers an invoice, Philippine
all purchases.
While there are quite a few challenges when it comes to building trust and authenticity in the age of digital communication, it is no doubt one of humankind’s greatest innovations. And if used properly, it can also take your relationship to even greater heights. Just always remember to charge your phone.