Party etiquette and other need-to-knows

HOME Economics is one of the major strands of the Technical Vocational and Livelihood (TVL) track of the Senior High School K-12 curriculum for senior students. It may sound inferior compared to a social science subject in terms of scope but it embraces a good number of home and economics topics that are highly essential in every household of the basic unit of society.

Today, we will discuss under the food and nutrition topic of Home Economics the courtesy at meals.

Filipinos are known for courtesy. If courtesy at meals is a must, Filipinos, especially the millennials today, through Home Economics class should continue to learn all about this. Courtesy is simply defined as the showing of politeness – in speech and behavior.

In Home Economics, this is referred to as the proper etiquette at the table. Although dining out has become more casual, it still isn’t acceptable to talk with your mouth full of food, rock the table with your elbows, or interfere with other diners’ experiences by displaying improper etiquette. It’s important to follow certain manners guidelines in both formal settings and fast food restaurants. Table manners are important in both professional and social situations, so it’s a good idea to know some basics. Home Economics is

the good venue to learn about this basic dining etiquette.

Invitation. Before meal time or meal gathering where you were invited, it is always a good idea to respond, even if an RSVP is not requested. This helps with planning. Don’t ask if you can bring extra guests if the invitation doesn’t make the offer.

Gift. When you are dining at the home of a friend, it is a good idea to bring a host gift. Don’t expect your gift to be used during the meal. Most parties have carefully planned menu items, and your gift may not go with the meal.

Seating Arrangement. Some parties are formal and have place cards where the host or hostess wants you to sit. If not, ask if there are seating preferences. Wait until the host sits before you do. In some cultures, a blessing will be said. In the Philippines, even if you don’t follow the beliefs of the prayer, show respect and be silent. If the host offers a toast, lift your glass. It is not necessary to “clink” someone else’s glass.

Napkin. As soon as you sit down, turn to your host or hostess and take a cue for when to begin. Once the host unfolds his or her napkin, you should remove your napkin from the table or plate, and place it on your lap. If you are dining out, you should place your napkin in your lap

immediately. Keep your napkin in your lap until you are finished eating. If you must get up at any time during the meal and plan to return, place the napkin on either side of your plate. After you are finished, place your napkin on the table to the left of your plate.

When to eat. If you are eating out, you should wait until all the members of your group have been served before picking up your fork. At a private dinner, observe the host or hostess and pick up your fork when he or she does. However, if you are at a buffet, you may start when there are others seated at your table.

Utensils. One of the most common issues to confuse today’s diners is which utensil to use for each course. A typical rule of thumb is to start with the utensil that is farthest from your plate and work your way toward the center of your place setting. If you see the host or hostess doing something different, you may follow his or her lead. The important thing is to remain as inconspicuous as possible.

After the party. Always send the host or hostess a thank you note or card in the mail or text, and don’t wait more than a day or two after the event. Address the host or hostess, thank him or her for the lovely meal, and add another short, positive comment to show your appreciation. Your note may be brief but heartfelt. ( Paid article)