Abuse should be reported, 1
IT IS everybody’s task to be sensitive and alert, suspicious and concerned when a child is morose, depressed, sad, silent and angry, and makes sexually suggestive behaviour like lifting her skirt or lowering her shorts.
The child is trying to send a message. If the child has pain or discharge from her private parts, an immediate medical check-up is essential.
Knowing the signs is important. Society has to wake up and accept the horrific truth that much of human nature is corrupt. One in every four children is a victim of sexual abuse. Every five minutes, one is abused and most incidents go unreported and acted upon. Children will tell a close friend first. So there are many in need of help.
You don’ t need t o be a psychologist to help a child-victim. You only need to be a friend, to listen with understanding and just be a truly good human. Just show friendship and encourage the child to be open and trusting and tell if anything bad happened to them. If yes, then give support and understanding and report it to the authorities for investigation and action and assist the child to get therapy, protection and legal help. The child will be fearful of disclosing abuse. Child abuse is almost as frequent as sending a text. Reporting child abuse should be as frequent as making a phone call.
All good people wish to push back against these crimes and do more to help rescue the children from abusers and traffickers and bring the suspects to trial and convict them. That is happening but not frequently enough. At the Preda Foundation, there are approximately 15 convictions every year of traffickers and abusers. It is a very secret crime and fear and terror is used against the children to stay silent. Child sex terrorists are everywhere, secretly abusing even their own children and getting away with i t. Fathers, uncles, brothers, clergy, grandparents, neighbors, traffickers, pimps, and sex tourists. There are good police and NGOs fighting back and bringing abusers to justice.
Angelica ( not her real name) is a 13-year-old child from a town in Zambales. She was sexually assaulted one night when she was alone in a small shack in the Philippine rural countryside. Two grown men burst into the remote shack, grabbed and abducted her. They dragged her out and brought her to a grassy field and there brutally and without shame or mercy raped the 13-year old. They then covered her with a coat and were moving her to another place to perhaps kill her to silence her forever. When they passed near the village, by pure chance, the wife of one of the abusers was out looking for him and saw them with the child. She challenged the men and an argument broke out and Angelica, traumatized as she was, broke away and ran for her life. She knew they were likely to kill her to cover up their horrific crime with murder.
Angelica ran back to her home in a little shack and her elder brother was there and she bravely reported all that happened. Immediately, they went to the police and described the suspects who were neighbors and apparently known to Angelica’s brother. The police responded immediately and they caught and arrested the two suspects and jailed them according to the rule on inquest.
Angelica was taken into the care of the municipal social worker and was clearly traumatized. Angelica and her brother received threats and Angelica was referred to the Preda home for abused children. She is now safe and able to share her story freely and is receiving the support, affirmation and is healing in a caring family environment. She has emotional release therapy to get out all the buried pain and hurt and anger at her abusers and be free of them. She will become self-confident, mature and empowered and will surely testify to the truth of what happened to her with confidence and clarity. She is getting all the help she needs to study and make a new life for herself.