Drop the blame game
MANY people make a habit of blaming others for all their problems. They fail to take full responsibility for the decisions they have made in life. For instance in school, when you ask a student why he failed, he would most likely give you answers such as: “My teacher was inconsiderate”, “The subject was difficult” etc. Rarely would you hear remarks such as, “I failed to do my best.”
Our current culture often encourages us to devolve responsibilities onto others. If we have behaved badly, we are encouraged to blame someone or something else. If we have an accident we are encouraged to place blame and go to court. If someone does something we don’t like or we split up with someone, we are encouraged to feel bitter and spend time berating that person and trying to seek vengeance.
The more you blame others with the challenges you are faced with, the more you will make people dislike you and not want to be around you. Unlike other games, the more often you play the blame game, the more you lose. Learning to tell when you need to own up to your role in a bad situation will help you grow from your experiences, and ultimately help you achieve more fulfilling relationships. Whilst the short term effect of blaming others might be somewhat satisfying, there are more dignified and mature ways of dealing with these situations. The first thing you want to do when faced with a personal challenge is not to start pointing fingers at others.
Let’s drop the blame game. We are ultimately responsible for our actions. Even though we may not be in control of what’s going on outside of us, we most can definitely can control our reactions to those situations. How we deal with these situations is what makes the difference. Some people rise to the challenges and make their lives count because of their situation, rather that in spite of it. These people maintain a positive view and use their situation to bring about something positive.
Your world starts with you and if the world outside doesn’t look too good, then perhaps it would be helpful to think about what you need to change to make your world a better place. We create our outside reality by the thoughts and beliefs we maintain about life in general. What we believe in our inner world, we see in our outer world—not the other way around. Harold C. Bacuso