How to exercise positive discipline

TODAY’S generation, misbehavior of students is considered a critical problem in the school. It’s a big challenge to us teachers how to impose positive discipline in our dayto-day teaching. And the same way, it serves as a protection against any cases on “Child Protection Policy” However, positive discipline is NOT permissiveness or letting students do whatever they want to do.

This was emphasized by Ma’am Claire Jimenez during the In Service Training in our school last February 12. Rather, she suggests a “parent congress” as part of the school program to have a parentteacher relationship. Based on her experience, this is very much practical and applicable especially in cities. “As a Guidance Counselor of a big school, we tied up to different agencies like the barangay, PNP, LGU, etc. to know and follow up students who are misbehaving not only twice but many times. Through the collaboration efforts, at least it helped us to know the students’ backgrounds that may cause them to be indifferent people because of their behavioral problem and the like.’ Jimenez said. This is a best intervention that we could follow in order to impose positive discipline and not imposing sanctions to them.

Furthermore, Atty. Nover Singganan, Legal Officer of Benguet Division stressed to have parent’s conference instead of imposing punishments every time any behavioral problems shown by the students. This is an enlightenment to us that the usual ways in disciplining we know are not appropriate. According to Atty. Singganan, it should be the parents to do the disciplining of their children. Instead, we call them and report the problems met and done by their wards. It proves that it goes back to us parents how we brought up our children. Therefore we have to strengthen our relationships with our kids.

I want to share what I read from workingmother.com 10 ways to practice positive discipline for better-behaved kids which may help us parents to help them do the right even when we’re not looking at them.

1. Treat the cause, not the symptoms if your child is hitting her sibling, jealousy may be to blame. “When we know the root cause, we can eliminate the child’s need to act this way, “says Naomi Aldort, author of Raising our Children, Rasing Ourselves.” She may need more time with you. Whatever the cause, positive discipline requires zooming out and taking a look at the big picture.

2. Instead of saying “no” redirect your child – “No” is not giving them anything to feel more capable; it’s a command, “Dr. Nelsen says, “Show them what they can do rather than what they can’t. Focusing on solution as opposed to punishment is a key tool in positive discipline.

3. Come a place of empathy and logic. Jim Fay, founder of Love and Logic suggested that meeting misbehavior should be with empathy, not anger or irritated lecture. Present a consequence once she’s out of fightor-flight mode and has had a chance to absorb what he did wrong. This way, she doesn’t repeat mistake.

4. Offer them productive ways to seek attention “Little kids feel significant when they can contribute, “Dr. Nelson caught. “When their given task to complete – they feel capable. In turn they’ll be more apt to use their personal power in constructive ways, as opposed to acting out.”

5. Dole out “energy” consequences. According to Fay that get energy back by not doing something the child wants you to do.

6. Set loving limits. “As kids turn 3, establish that arguing doesn’t fly in your house. That’s when kids tests those limits to find out if we love them enough to make them safe. The next time your child attempts to argue, perhaps by stomping her foot and saying, “But it’s not fair! You can respond with, “I know” or an empathetic sigh and then walk away. You’re holding a boundary by refusing to argue and your child will learn,” Fay says.

7. Give them voice. Although there’s no arguing, children need to feel heard. “It’s healthy for kids to have time each week for them to say what they think is unfair about how the house runs, “Fay explains. You can set aside 20 minutes a week for 4year-olds and up during which they can “present their case” and parents will listen without arguing. The opportunity allows everyone in the family to air their concerns and brainstorms solutions together.

8. Remove shame around making mistakes – Just like the family meetings, positive discipline experts encourage open conversation about mistakes, teaching kids that they’re “opportunities to learn,” says Dr. Nelsen. “At dinner time, go around the table and have everyone share a mistake they experienced and what they learned from it,” she advises. Children will feel encouraged and respected, which will ultimately create a positive shift in their thinking and behavior.

9. Prioritize quality time. Maybe you devote 15 minutes before bedtime with your kids, to read a book together. Or once a month, go out to eat. Either way, regular scree-free one-on-one time with your child gives them a sense of belonging and significance. “A child’s behavior is mostly reflection of her self-esteem and of knowing that she is loved, worthy and autonomous,” Aldort notes.

10. Be the leader, not the controller. Naomi Aldort explains that good leaders don’t control others; they set up others for success. “Instead of a command like, ‘Go brush your teeth,’ which invites resistance, you can ask, ‘What do you need to do so your teeth will be squeaky clean? In turn your child feels respected, and that respect makes them feel like cooperating,” says Dr. Nelsen. By “To be angry or punitive means to use fear as a way to get them to obey,” Aldort says. Children behave well of their own free will when they see us their allies – not policing them.

With these, it’s a challenging task to be parents in this millennial age. Nevertheless, unchanging values should continue in this changing world. to the latter practice.

The SK Reform Act of 2015 is a result of rigorous consultations from the different sectors including the young. As a qualified youth, I personally agree with most of the Act’s provisions particularly on the removal of the influence of barangay officials in the use of the SK fund. This only mean that the government has given its trust to the youth in managing its own budget more so, that most of the SK Chairpersons are on their twenties.

However, the issuance of the joint circular delays or even impedes the implementation of SK programs due to the absence of separate auditing guidelines intended for the expenditure dogs beaten in the classes or if one wins the Best of Breed. A dog or bitch may earn a maximum of five points from one competition (1 ring = 1 judge). And since most dog shows are usually dual dog shows, the maximum championship points that a dog may earn regardless if it is adjudged Best in Show in both rings, say, defeating the other entered 349 dogs (granted there were 350 entries), will only be 10 points (please take note that for purposes of ranking dogs nationally, a separate point system is used independent of championship points).

In my honest opinion, with this format, a Philippine Champion title is not always a guarantee of quality. If you keep on showing your dog, chances are your dog will earn enough points to become a champion. The quality of the other competing dogs and the duration of completing the title should also be taken into consideration including the skill level of the judge/s and their own personal biases.

Moreover, take note that even if the parents (sire and dam) of a puppy are titled dogs, there is no guarantee that the puppy will turn out to be like them. If the sire and/or dam could not produce outstanding offspring, and even if the puppies produced are sound but with bad temperaments and health, then the titles are useless.

When you have decided to add a purebred dog to your family, please consider these:

When acquiring a puppy, do not get swayed by the marketing ploy of indiscriminate breeders about red or green marks, champion lines, and other marketing strategies that do not actually present a picture of the puppy’s essential pedigree. Do your own research, determine if the breed suits your lifestyle, interview breeder/s regarding the good and bad traits of their lines; their producing capability (consistency of producing sound puppies litter after litter), and the health and temperament predisposition of a particular “breeding” (some lines produce dogs prone to cancer, some lines produce dogs that are highly energetic, worst some line produce dogs that are very difficult to train/aggressive, etc.)

It is not advisable to buy from a “backyard breeder”. Some dog owners would attempt to breed in the hopes of having an offspring from their beloved companion animals. But breeding dogs, when done indiscriminately, is like playing Russian Roulette, you will never know what the combination of genes with untested parents will produce in terms of appearance (structure), health (hereditary diseases/longevity), and temperament (behavior and demeanor).

Of course, for me, buying a dog from a pet shop (even if its pedigree has several champions) is a mortal sin. That was my first mistake. The second mistake I made was that I bred that dog. And because of those mistakes, I contributed partly to the deterioration of the quality of golden retrievers in the country and the effect was exponential, far-reaching, and long lasting. Based on my pedigree research today, that mistake I made has already produced four generations of dogs carrying the dysplastic gene.

For feedback, email to noblepinegoldens@gmail.com of the 2018 and 2019 SK funds. Another vague area is the source of salary/honorarium of SK Treasurer and SK Secretary since the circular mentioned that the secretary and treasurer have roles in the SK structure. This scenario now creates another problem because personnel service is not allowed in the SK fund utilization. There is no identified source on where to get the compensation of the additional appointed officials.

As of the moment, only SK budget for fiscal years 2017 and below programmed by the Youth Task Force are the funds being spent.

SK plans will remain a dream unless all systems are put in place.