Someone old but new

M: Rachel had a painful breakup with her boyfriend of two years because he and her best friend got into a relationship. But she’s now okay. It’s been three years. Now her ex-bf and her ex-best friend’s relationship is over. And her ex-bf, who told her that he realized how important she is to him, wants her back. Rachel asks what is she to do? Nothing. Let ex-bf do the doing. All she has to do is to discern well if he is really serious about not hurting her again. DJ: I believe in second chances, particularly if two people share a lot more together than a theme song. The parting must have hurt really bad. But if the dude is trying his very best to not just apologize but to show that he learned his lesson and that he’s truly sincere about wanting her back, why not go for Act II? M: Three years is a short or long time depending on how you see it on how one has truly recovered from a heartache. Being betrayed by two people you both loved and trusted must have been very painful. Then there is anger and how to contend with it. To be able to say that you are okay means you have forgiven both of them. But does forgiving mean that one has forgotten? That is why I caution Rachel on getting back with her ex-bf. Personally, I find it difficult to believe a person who has betrayed and hurt me. DJ: Forgiving someone who is sincere about righting a wrong is cool. And if Rachel can move forward minus the hurt, even way cooler. No one is perfect. What counts more is whether lessons were learned. Besides, giving the relationship another chance is better than possibly wondering how the future will go if things are handled differently. It’s not every day that we find someone whom we really click with. M: Rachel, it’s good to know that you are okay and have moved on. Maybe your ex-bf deserves another chance. Or maybe not. What is sure is that the decision rests on your good judgment on whether or not to allow him back into your life as more than a friend but as a significant other or hopefully as a lifetime partner. As in all things, nothing is certain. The only thing certain is the uncertainty of everything including love and commitment. Use your heart and mind wisely. Remember to love yourself first and know that you deserve no less love from the one who you gave your love to. DJ: Life is too short to be proud or to hold on to hurts that should have long been dead. If he loves her and she loves him, and they both have their lesson, things can be better this time around. They still won’t be able to fully figure how the rest of the chapters will be. But this new beginning can lead to a better present and future.