This is how you move on
MANILA – Angelica Panganiban said acceptance is the key for a person to move on from a failed relationship.
This was Panganiban's advice as told to Bianca Gonzalez for her series of “Paano Ba ‘To” videos uploaded on YouTube.
“Matigas ang ulo ko eh. Wala naman akong pinakinggan noon sa mga friends ko, family ko. Hindi talaga ako nakinig. Ikaw talaga 'yung makakaalam kung kailan talaga na kaya mo na or ano ba talaga 'yung mga dapat mong gawin. So ang pinakamakalaking nakatulong sa akin ay 'yung acceptance,” Panganiban said.
While this was her first step in moving forward, Panganiban said it was also the hardest part of the entire process.
“Marami tayong mga iisipin para mabaliw tayo. So nagstart ako na hindi 'yun isipin. Inisip ko na hindi talaga kayo para sa isa’t isa. Kailangan mo ‘yun tanggapin. Huwag mo ipilit sa sarili mo na baka may hope. Nag-start ako doon sa acceptance na wala na, wala na talaga ito.,” she said.
Once there is acceptance, Panganiban said everything will follow.
“Doon mo na mararamdaman 'yung forgiveness. Titigilan mo na kasi 'yung pag-blame mo sa sarili mo. Mawawala na din ang galit mo sa tao. Parang mas malaya ka,” he said.
Although moving on is a painful process, Panganiban said embracing all the pain also helped her be happy again.
Panganiban said she reached a point that she suddenly felt tired of feeling sad and hurt that she is just laughing it off now.
“Yung pagod, masarap din 'yun. Iba din 'yung reward nun. Kasi gigising ka, uy, amazing. Hindi ko siya naisip today,” she said.
Currently, Panganiban is at a stage where she is enjoying her single life more.
“Mas gusto kong ma-appreciate 'yung sarili ko. Mas gusto kong ibalik 'yung time na nawala sa sarili ko, sa mga friends ko na hindi ko pinapansin noon. Ngayon, mas may freedom kang magpunta kung saan mo gusto na hindi mo iisipin, ‘Naku okay lang kaya?’ Mas peaceful ngayon ang lahat ng mga ginagawa mo,” she said.
The actress also said being single doesn’t equate to being sad.
Panganiban’s last relationship was with actor John Lloyd Cruz, who is now rumored to be in a relationship with Ellen Adarna.