The truth about death
MOURNING for five people who died in the same month is not easy. I felt the loss and at the same time the fear that maybe I will be next in line.
My long lost boyfriend died of a chronic kidney disorder, my uncle due to complications of diabetes mellitus, another trusted colleague due to a vehicular accident, also my cousin due to fire suffocation, and my best friend’s sister due to a chronic disease. My days were filled with sorrow and my nights with anxiety because I also feel symptoms of my present illness that seriously affects my vision and mobility.
All of these experiences led me to have some thoughts of death which are real. Let me share with you my insights.
Death can come in various forms, even at worst and very tragic. No matter how we take care of ourselves, we cannot plan or predict our cause of death. Even how much we exercise, eat good foods, comply with medications, we can die even with our healthiest body. We can die while going home with our children during Christmas, we can die when we presumed we are safe at work and we can die even when doctors diagnose us fit and healthy.
Someone’s death becomes a reason to reunite with family and friends you do not see often. Even if we live in the same city with friends or family, we do not really see each other as often as we want. We only see them in person during occasions like the wake or burial of someone we both know. The funeral becomes the place where everyone can just say hello to each other and share some deep hugs after years without communication.
Death can be so unfair to an immediate family member. And even when everyone is mourning, there are times that even the question of who is the immediate family members matter. The mother of course and the siblings are the closest family members, while the husband or the wife is the immediate family member when the deceased is married. Some cases like the stepsisters or brothers are not allowed to visit the wake, they all remained to be mourning with hopes to see the person who passed away.
Death can be the ultimate way where people can realize one’s worth. The saddest part is when a person dies, mostly everyone appreciates and feels the loss of the deceased. But when they were still living, every bit of their mistakes are fully announced in the office, at home or in the neighbourhood. They tend to disown the person and even laugh out loud at their weaknesses. Worse, these hypocrites appear to be the ones who are deeply affected. And they even give huge amounts of money or assistance, hey – you could have shown your good heart when the person was still alive.
Death may come any time, in a day we least expect. Sometimes we questioned God why He takes away the people who are dear to us too soon. For me, I guess God has always a reason for everything. And reasons might not be available at this moment of time that we become so angry of God. Let us all remember that God created us and from the very beginning, we all know that our lives are temporary and in time we will all die.
So now that God gave us the chance to still live in this world, let us all learn to be kind, humbler, peace-maker and loving to everyone. Let us all do these every day because we do not know if people surrounding us will still be with us tomorrow, next week, in a month or just in a few hours. Let us live a life contributing joy to others before it is too late.