Husbands' moments of weaknesses
Your choices will shape your life. It dictates how you and others treat you. Whatever pains you now can somehow be the ultimate reason why it sucks your remaining life. Sometimes no matter how it is clear that YOU are the reason of your suffering, still you remain to be in that situation because you expect to see changes believing that true love can bear all the sufferings and in time will turn into joy!
How many times did you cry out loud in the world saying it is the end? How many times have you promised that you are not coming back? And how many times have you shown them your physical wounds? But then in two to three days’ time – everything changes. I will then hear you – “he is home and I am happy”. And then in a week, he is with his mistress again…Oh, you have been cheated many times, physically abused and left behind – you are impossible!
I know that when we genuinely love someone, we are ready to accept all our partners’ imperfections. But in any case, it is annoying to broadcast your husband’s brutality and then convince people how good he is later. You tell the public that he has good finances, he owns lands and he manages a big company. You even persuade your family to believe that he has fully supported your children financially. You're delusional! Why do you then visit various credit or loan agencies to send your only child to school? Why can’t you even pay your long-time debts? And then you say your husband is a good provider?
What’s more, you made yourself believe that he cannot just leave you when in fact you both are not living in the same house. But you proudly say “he comes home on Sunday”. And you even said he is with his mistress six times in a week. Your words are precisely not in congruence with the real situation. And the world is worn out because you don’t listen to the truth. You equate pain now with joy and it seems like you desire pain because you don’t try to end it for real.
And you refuse to believe that you need help. Look at you - after seeing him with another girl very passionate with each other, you even prepare him a sumptuous dinner. You bought him nice clothes when he can’t even give you a single flower. Of course, it is not a sin to be kind to people who are self-centered but you have to be mindful of yourself too. Your kid deserves so much of your attention. Your husband appears to be the most handsome guy but your kid is so poor to look at. And stop being pre-occupied with transforming to be like your husband’s mistresses, it is not the solution to his demonic desire for other women.
Girl, the solution is YOU! I know you are strong, you would not have stayed until now if you were not. But please use your strength in finally saying no to his physical and emotional abuses. Do not believe your chronic thoughts that he loves you more than anybody else. He has proven to you many times that you are his last choice but you have continuously falsely believed you are important. Do not settle for being the number one out of the ten because you are the wife. Settle for being the only one! Wake up! His several betrayals are not simply moments of his weaknesses but it is a pattern of his irresponsible, uncivilized, inhuman and evil behavior. So, do not be an option. Again, your choices will shape your life….