Whispers of destruction

ISOMETIMES think about those who are so envious of others’ achievements that they would like to criticize more or watch over others’ everyday tasks. I just cannot imagine why these people are so comfortable evaluating others’ achievements when they are not tasked to do it. I guess as evaluators, we have specific criteria to rate one. And maybe they have the best judgment, but I hope it is helping people they critique to be better versions of themselves.

But why are these people judging non-stop? And why do they enjoy talking about others, creating stories without thinking of the damage they may cause? Worse is, when they are confronted, they would deny or just say it is just a form of inquiry.

I wonder how a person talks to someone whom they have betrayed? Eating together, talking about life and issues, how dare they even offer gifts when they are evil at heart.

That pretty face is a façade. What is beauty when you gossip to everyone around you? Gossiping for me is when you create and announce stories that are untrue. It is when you presume somebody has done wrong and share it with many, the most is to an authority.

Ask yourself – what does it do good to you? I bet you just would like to pull a person down and be the one in the limelight instead.

Congratulations – you are indeed a good actor!

Isn’t it fair to ask the person involved with your research gossiping topic? Others might say “I just shared it with the person involved because I want possible problems to be fixed earlier before it becomes bigger.” But do you know that gossiping is far-reaching? In just a minute you can kill a person by gossiping. And why do you keep on doing that when you were caught many times? I guess you find it entertaining, it feels like you are giving trivia questions making the story captivating for others to engage. You like all people to be happy, so you tell fake stories at the expense of others. This is such an unfair practice – you must stop now. I remember a study in 2019 by Robbins and Karran. It says that gossipers are extroverts and typically from females. But whether it’s common to females or males, let me remind you that gossiping is for sure a sin. It is bearing evil news behind someone’s back. And I believe that even needlessly sharing the truth about someone is gossip. So, if you feel your lips becoming itchy, finding the opportunity to share about someone else, why not stop first and ask – Is the story I have heard real? Do I need to share this – how may it help others?

I would not like to appear pure here and yes, I must say that we all gossip so far. I believe all of us at times enjoy gossiping. But maybe we do not know that it is a form of filling up the emptiness in us. Let us accept that gossiping can be a form of socializing but please we are hurting others while we are enjoying.

Oh, I wish we could be more compassionate to others. Let us try to listen to the truth before we judge. Stop playing as the devil’s advocate! Let us be reminded of the basic reminder that “if we do not have something nice to say, kindly do not speak at all”. Finally, we can ask ourselves – How do we think God feels about us when we gossip? Ephesians 4:29 says, “Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.”

And so, I wish, for all of us not to permit the devil to snag us to whispers of destruction. Be careful of our tongues that ignite damage to many. Do not let gossiping burn others’ and our lives. Let us all be the instruments of compassion and not with rumors. With this, we can live in a safe place with people around us nurturing mutual respect.