Just say yes!

The Freeman - - COMMUNITY - Jaris Martinez Boc

My name is Jaris Martinez Boc, 26 years old, a mother of six, and I am six months preg­nant. I bet you won’t be­lieve that! But this is how Nico, my col­league, in­tro­duces me to new peo­ple in a cre­ative way!

He is telling me his point – that you want some­one to re­mem­ber you by mak­ing a good first im­pres­sion. What is a funny, in­ter­est­ing, or cre­ative way to in­tro­duce your­self? So I was nod­ding to him and re­al­iz­ing I re­ally have no idea how to uniquely in­tro­duce my­self.

In­tro­duc­tions have al­ways been tricky for me. But here I am, hon­ored to do an Ice Breaker Speech. Let us do this!

My name is Jaris. Peo­ple con­fuse or mis­pro­nounce my name all the time!

I even pause be­fore telling baris­tas my name, as I silently

con­tem­plate giv­ing an easy-to-pro­nounce alias, which prob­a­bly just makes me look sketchy! My name is de­rived from my fa­ther’s work place back then in Pa­pua New Guinea. Peo­ple call me Ja, or Jar, or Jars. My mother calls me “Ku­lot.” She is be­ing lit­eral.

I spent years bat­tling my quiet tem­per­a­ment, try­ing to become the ex­tro­verted per­son­al­ity peo­ple wanted me to be. While I ap­pre­ci­ate the need of speak­ing in front of the crowd, I also rec­og­nize the nat­u­ral strengths of be­ing quiet.

I am orig­i­nally from Davao. I went to col­lege clue­less about what to study, why I was there, and what op­por­tu­ni­ties I should be look­ing for. My mother sug­gested for me to take an HRM de­gree for me to work abroad and get bet­ter pay. So I say yes. How­ever, as time passed, I found it hard to mo­ti­vate my­self when the mod­ules were things I did not even have an in­ter­est in. I said to my­self, “Just be­cause I don’t like it now does not mean I will al­ways feel this way.” So I car­ried on.

When I was on my fourth year, I de­cided to study and work at the same time, so I landed my first full-time BPO job. Then I found it so chal­leng­ing. Work pre­vented me from fully de­vot­ing my­self to my stud­ies that I al­most failed to grad­u­ate on time be­cause of a fail­ing sub­ject. But by the time I was fin­ish­ing school, I knew I was dis­sat­is­fied.

Af­ter work­ing for a BPO Com­pany, I was of­fered with an amaz­ing op­por­tu­nity to lead a start up out­sourc­ing com­pany . IT was not easy to find the courage to start a busi­ness, but with great com­mit­ment and good in­ten­tions, I said yes. In the be­gin­ning, it felt com­fort­able with that ini­tial leap of in­de­pen­dence. But the process af­ter mak­ing the leap proved to be a test of char­ac­ter.

I loved my job; I in­vested so much time and en­ergy in my work. I had is­sued with workholism. Then later, I found my­self spend­ing less time with my fam­ily and part­ner.

Af­ter five years in help­ing the busi­ness, I came to the point where I needed to make a de­ci­sion for my­self and for my fam­ily’s fu­ture. It may have meant leav­ing a long-time job and leav­ing a city full of fam­ily and friends.

I feel grate­ful that through­out my suc­cesses and fail­ures, I had a part­ner, Ryan, who sup­ported me when I needed to slow down. Our re­la­tion­ship started with a very straight for­ward YES – yes for a trial re­la­tion­ship, where we both agreed to see how far we can go in a long dis­tance re­la­tion­ship. I was 20 years old then.

We are both com­plete op­po­sites. I am a per­fec­tion­ist; he re­minds me that life is not per­fect.

There were so many things I have dis­cov­ered. I learned that you just don’t love the beauty of a per­son – but you learn how to love the ugly parts of the re­la­tion­ship too.

It is true that who you marry is your most im­por­tant ca­reer de­ci­sion. Var­i­ous in­ter­ests, re­spon­si­bil­i­ties, and even ca­reer de­ci­sions are al­tered by the un­pre­dictabil­ity of life.

At first, you may feel that you have no idea about what you are do­ing or what might hap­pen. But soon, you get your groove. You gain more un­der­stand­ing and con­fi­dence about your­self.

There is a say­ing that if some­body of­fers you an amaz­ing op­por­tu­nity but you are un­sure if you can do it, just say yes then learn how to do it later.

Just say Yes to move into un­known cir­cum­stances. Say yes to trial and er­ror. Say yes to life’s op­por­tu­ni­ties and pos­i­tiv­ity. Re­mem­ber that in life we are for­ever learn­ing.

*Ayala Toast­mas­ters Club or the YES Club meets ev­ery 2nd and 4th Tues­days of the month at Cebu City Mar­riott Ho­tel, 6 to 7 p.m. For more in­for­ma­tion about the club, call Cebu City Mar­riott Ho­tel.

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