The ba­sis of a healthy self-es­teem

The Freeman - - Opinion -

Ev­ery­one should have a healthy self-es­teem. If we don’t have it yet, then let’s de­velop it and help ev­ery­one else have it. A healthy self-es­teem is im­por­tant since only then can we have a good un­der­stand­ing of things and work prop­erly as well.

With­out this healthy self-es­teem, we can ei­ther over­reach our ca­pa­bil­i­ties or un­der­es­ti­mate our po­ten­tials. We can ei­ther overdo things or un­der­per­form, be­come ei­ther over­con­fi­dent or mired with doubts, etc.

And the ba­sis of this healthy self-es­teem is none other than our dig­nity as chil­dren of God, made in his image and like­ness, en­dowed with in­tel­li­gence and will that en­able us to know and to love, and capped with the tremen­dous di­vine gift of grace that would raise us up in such a way that we can par­tic­i­pate in the very life of God!

We need to con­tin­u­ally re­in­force this fun­da­men­tal truth about our­selves in our mind and heart, and ex­press it con­sis­tently in our thoughts, words and deeds. We have to find a way to make this ba­sic truth about our­selves op­er­a­tive in our life.

That is why it’s im­por­tant that we al­ways bring in the fun­da­men­tal truths of our faith to tackle this prob­lem, and to let them shape our out­look, at­ti­tudes, and bear­ing. If these truths of our faith about our­selves do not or hardly play a prom­i­nent role in de­vel­op­ing our life, then we have rea­son to think that we are prone to ex­ag­ger­ate or to un­der­es­ti­mate our self-es­teem.

Imag­ine the fol­low­ing truths of faith: We have been cre­ated in the image and like­ness of God. We have be­come the mas­ter­piece of all his cre­ation. We are the only ones, to­gether with the an­gels, who can know and love God and thus en­ter into his life.

We are al­ways chil­dren of God be­cause even if we have com­mit­ted sin and strayed from him, he con­tin­ues to love us and would do the most com­pli­cated process of sav­ing us by be­com­ing man him­self, en­light­en­ing us about who we re­ally are, and as­sum­ing all our sins by dy­ing on the cross.

If we can only be­lieve that God truly loves us no mat­ter what, then we would have no rea­son to have an overblown sense of self-es­teem or a low one. On the con­trary, we can show con­fi­dence and joy lived in great hu­mil­ity, since we know where every­thing in us comes from. We can even have a healthy kind of su­pe­ri­or­ity com­plex, de­spite our worst con­di­tion in our earthly life.

A healthy self-es­teem will al­ways be char­ac­ter­ized by the end­less ex­pres­sions of love. There is al­ways con­cern for the oth­ers.

There is will­ing­ness to serve and not to be served, just like the at­ti­tude of Christ. Yes, a healthy self-es­teem is not afraid of the ef­fort, sac­ri­fices, pains, etc., that would be in­volved in pur­su­ing the im­pulse of love.

A healthy self-es­teem would make us ever dy­namic, with a great zeal to reach out to the oth­ers, and most es­pe­cially to God. It would in­spire us to be very cre­ative and in­ven­tive if only to meet the de­mands of love.

A healthy self-es­teem is never proud. It is hum­ble, and it leads us to know how to give our­selves to the oth­ers with­out ex­pect­ing any re­turn. It en­ables us to adapt our­selves to the way oth­ers are, with­out feel­ing in any way di­min­ished.

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